I cannot speak for anyone else, but it took me a long time to admit that I had a problem, and even then it still took awhile for me to bring it up with my Doctor. Please be patient with him and pray for him. Regardless of the cause, it will be a tremendous weight off his shoulders when he finally takes action.

I finally got my husband to tell me that he doesn't even want to try to be intimate because he doesn't want to be a let down. Now how do I get him interested again?

I understand your frustration. I hope someone here can help. I too am in a sexless marriage, so I can empathize with your struggle. Maybe being patient is the key. It's for him to realize that trying is for both of you, and that you will love him unconditionally. Good luck.

I have been patient and patient, but I feel like my patience is running thin. I have prayed about it and trying to wait for the Lord's intervention. But since we do want children, how much more can he go on like this?

I understand that. Well I am realizing that ED is Verrrrrrrrrry sensitive for these men. They feel like their manhood has been taken from them. I agree with the first reply... He should see a Dr. The sooner the better. Especially since you want to have kids. Try to gently talk to him about going to the Dr at least.

Thanks, BrokenBetty. I hope your situation works out too

4J...

Perhaps you can persuade him to action (going to Doc and meds or other things) by telling him that with those aid he WILL become a Super Man with no worries in bed.

I have had no natural erections for over 6 years since Prostate surgery .. but I have ALSO had about a thousand or more rock steel hard erections produced by miracles of modern technology.

He can too .. get him excited about the prospect. The Doctors visits can be tedious and some things might work and others might not but assure him that it can be done and he'll love it when it is done.

J

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Try this. Check out this link and go to the video
http://healthmattersolutions.com/ed/

It's funny I was reading all night long by Barbara Keesling. It was talking about a woman taking lots of time with a hand job without any pressure on the husband to get an erection. Somehow this got into my mind and I touched myself in bed at the base of the penis so as not to give too much stimulation. I don't believe in masturbation but I was imagining my wife doing it. I was doing this for half an hour gently but persistently. Eventually I was rock hard and I was amazed. I even got up and looked in a mirror and sure enough a great big erection standing up by itself. That was amazing and an encouraging for me. Don't know where to go from here except to do it again sometime when I am relaxed. If my wife could do that for me it would be a step closer to a possible solution perhaps.

We have accepted the problem. My wife doesn't want me taking viagra and stuff. I don't believe it is healthy either on a regular basis. I would say we still have great sex even though we have adapted it. My wife still climaxes if I lay on her or I can do it manually. Pleasing me is no problem as I am still over the moon with sex. My wife has a paddle if one gets that. Sometimes I get her to dress up in this sexy dress with tights and suspenders. It does raise the temperature somewhat.

you could try a vacuum therapy. I have a used a vaccurect product and it works great. if you use that no medication is required. the only thing difficult is the mental barrier of using it. It isn't easy to accept that you can't get an erection under your own power.

I have been married for almost 5 yrs now and together with my husband 8. Our marriage has been basically sexless for 3 yrs. He finally made an appointment with a doctor but at this point I am so uncomfortable with him that I don't want him to even touch me not that he ever does. There has been no attraction felt from him towards me for 3 yrs and even though I've cried many times or tried to talk to him about it, it has always ended in a fight. I understand the medical side of it but my confidence is at a negative with him that I don't know if we can get back what we used to have. I've been so lonely and not wanted for almost our whole marriage I think I am going to be one of the couples that tend to divorce in their later years after kids are grown and moved out because there is just nothing left between them anymore. I love my husband very much and I understand this is out of his control what I don't understand is letting someone feel so hurt for so long. I can see where it may be hard to admit to yourself and talk to a doctor about it but I can't see letting someone lay next to you night after night and cry.
Good luck to everyone going through this it seems hard for both parties for different reasons

Have you ever looked into high purity oxygen? This is a natural treatment that no only helps men, but also helps the female libido. I learned about a product called Big Ox O2 from another forum and have been using it for a while now. It works every time for me. I did a lot of reading and there is scientific evidence that high purity oxygen is a known treatment for ED. It's something you might want to look into.