Impotence & Erectile Dysfunction Support Group
Erectile dysfunction or impotence is a sexual dysfunction characterized by the inability to develop or maintain an erection of the penis for satisfactory sexual intercourse regardless of the capability of ejaculation. There are various underlying causes, such as diabetes, many of which are medically reversible. The causes may be physiological or psychological.
so my story is we moved away from my husbands hometown where he had a million friends and family to a place where he has never found friends15 years ago. and since that move my husband has never been himself. He got depressed when he never made friendsand soon we stopped making love. Well sometimes things got better for awhile.
We seperated two years ago I told him I could not take his depression any more.
He started therapy things improved we got back together. I love him he is a great guy but we have not had sex in almost 3 months so last night I asked him what was wrong, he refused to tell me. In the past he would go into chat rooms and I asked him if he was doing that again.He knows that hurts me so much and had promised never to do that again He of course denied it but somehow after fighting most of the night he got to work said he was in the bathroom and got an erection. So what did he do he took a picture of it and somehow posted it on facebook!!!!!!!
He said it was a mistake (ya think) I'm like WTF were you going to do with it???
I am beyond words! He must have been trying to show someone it clearly was not me and so I feel like thats the final straw! He feels so bad he wants to die but so do I!!! I'm so completely baffled he claims he loves me but really???
We seperated two years ago I told him I could not take his depression any more.
He started therapy things improved we got back together. I love him he is a great guy but we have not had sex in almost 3 months so last night I asked him what was wrong, he refused to tell me. In the past he would go into chat rooms and I asked him if he was doing that again.He knows that hurts me so much and had promised never to do that again He of course denied it but somehow after fighting most of the night he got to work said he was in the bathroom and got an erection. So what did he do he took a picture of it and somehow posted it on facebook!!!!!!!
He said it was a mistake (ya think) I'm like WTF were you going to do with it???
I am beyond words! He must have been trying to show someone it clearly was not me and so I feel like thats the final straw! He feels so bad he wants to die but so do I!!! I'm so completely baffled he claims he loves me but really???
I am much older than you (49 yr old F) and my personal situation is different (married 16 yrs. to a 60 yr old stroke (recent) survivor).
I hope others come forward to offer advice. All I have to offer is trust your instincts, pay attention to red flags and try to initiate conversation and sharing every chance you get. Clearly something is going on, and your husband needs to feel comfortable enough to be able to be honest with you about it.
Depression may have a big impact on the sex drive but of course there may be other factors as well. If he has used a lot of porn in the past he may suffer from porn induced ed. That means that his brain is saturated and are only able to get turned on when watching porn related material. It is like an addication, the more he takes the stronger the stuff in order to get the "high". You read a bit more here: http://erectileformula.com/what-is-porn-induced-ed/