Impotence & Erectile Dysfunction Support Group

Erectile dysfunction or impotence is a sexual dysfunction characterized by the inability to develop or maintain an erection of the penis for satisfactory sexual intercourse regardless of the capability of ejaculation. There are various underlying causes, such as diabetes, many of which are medically reversible. The causes may be physiological or psychological.

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User1993 04/27/2018

Hello- need to vent here please. I am 24 and dealing with erectile dysfunction for the 3rd time. I was married between 18 and 23 and my ex husband had ED. My current boyfriend is a saint and the kindest most empathetic and good man Ive ever known. He also had ED. It is too painful for me *feeling of "not again!*.

I feel anxiety when I see him because Ive dealt with ED for so long that my brain starts doing back flips when its time "to try" or even the thought of it not working out. I dont want to do it at all. I do feel traumatized and hopeless about this and have considered seeing a sex therapist. But im 24! Im embarrassed. My current boyfriend is a keeper and deeply honest about the problem. I think it is porn induced as the doctor found no medical issues. But I feel so disgusting and unattractive because of this.

A lor of Your posts are talking about problems in your 50s or 60s, im 24 and cant get it at all. I dont thinks toys are the same. I dont know what to do but im depressed and feel a rush of abstract pain in my stomach when i start thinking about it and self loathing. Since ive dealt with this so long, i dont have patience or the empathy needed for the man to feel supported. I just cry and cry and cry quietly in the bathroom. I only can think of how it makes me feel. After a while it affect you too much to think of the other.

At this point i think even if he breaks the porn addiction and can get hard or maintain , i wouldnt want to. Its already left a mark on me and my desire had plummeted out of fear of failure. Not worth the pain. Why me ?? Why so many times?

Tigerhound1967 04/30/2018

I'm one of those 50s, but I am married to a younger woman. Not 20s, but younger. We had some issues that led to some ED. You mentioned porn induced. Have you discussed what type of porn and why your keeper was interested in? My wife and I have tried to integrate both of our fantasy and/or desires into our "play". Sometimes this is as simple as texting with each other in the same room, with others present. Sending messages and pre taken pics that relate to our preferences. It has been better than Viagra to stimulate spontaneous activities. Not sure if this is an option for you, but it is something that has worked for us.

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larryduce 05/07/2018

I agree with the reply above. If he has high blood pressure and using blood pressure medication, has diabetes, ED may be a fact of life and prescription ED pills like Viagra or Cialis will help. It worked for me for mage 50 to 74.

EDtreatment 05/19/2018

There is some good advice above. Please understand, it is NOT your fault. ED is a medical problem; it needs to be properly diagnosed and treated.

Having said that, ED can also trigger psychological issues, and once those issues arise, they can make the ED worse. So getting past it may require a combination of medical treatment and counseling.

You are very young compared to a lot of people on this forum. Get help to solve this problem, and you and your keeper can have many happy years together!

EDtreatment 05/25/2018

By the way, there is an online survey for women whose partners suffer from ED.

https://edtreatment.info/launching-a-survey-for-partner-of-men-with-ed/

TimTakeshi 07/31/2018

I had the same problem when I was in my late 20s. I got super panicked but later realized that it was related to stress (mostly job). However, identifying that cause took me a long time! I was lucky that it all worked again after I decided to take a break from work.

In order to cure it you would need to identify its cause first which can be quite tricky. Even for professionals identifying the right cause is not straight-forward. Some forms of ED do not even have a cure.

Pills such as viagra are more of a temporary cover-up rather than a cure in my opinion. From personal experience, I can tell that even a bunch of expensive tests does not necessarily mean you will get a proper diagnosis :(

Based on my own experience I decided to try and help other patients by addressing the problem of difficult diagnosis:
I am currently working on a project that aims to make diagnosing the cause for ED faster and cheaper for the patient. In order to better understand the need of patients I set up a short anonymous google form.

Any feedback about your experience with ED would be much appreciated and could help other patients!
https://goo.gl/forms/ZM0tyT5KtDmRht892

lamperg 09/10/2018

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TBW19 09/10/2018

There are a lot of ways to help with impotence but a lot of men cannot have Viagra/medication due to high blood pressure, interference with current treatments or due to some nasty side effects.

After suffering from prostate cancer, my father has designed a product with Urologist in the UK and US which does not require medication or invasive surgery - Stays-Hard.

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Feedback has been overwhelmingly positive so far from all types of people, including diabetics

candycin 09/14/2018

if there is no medical reason for his ED at this age it could be over masturbation and or porn!!! Look it up ED in some cases is caused by porn viewing. Yourbrainonporn.com has lots of info. Of course rule out all above mention medical issues but it might be time to have a honest conversation about masturbation and porn.

Charles_Jones 11/15/2018

Erectile dysfunction is a consistent condition whereby men fail to attain or maintain the erection for a period sufficient for sexual satisfaction. With ED, completion of sex is almost impossible. This situation may leave you frustrated & demoralized that not only affects your social life but health too. Most of the patients continue to face the situation simply because they are hesitant to speak to the doctor.

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