My husband has basically given up (you can read my post-Sexless marriage to get full story). Although I'm not wanting sex right now because of the death of my mom on 12/31, I've been missing that closeness we used to have. When we first got married, I was not all that interested in sex (because I was used a couple of times in past relationships). He said something like "I would hate to see what it would look like when we try for kids." 14 years later, that statement has come back to haunt us. I did get pregnant in 2011 but miscarried. We haven't tried since except one other time several years ago with no luck. I envy you that you have a child.

So, what would you like your husband to do? Create a magical penis just for you?
This is not something he has control over, I'm sure he is a lot more frustrated by it than you will ever be. If you lost your breasts would you want him to still love you? Or would he be a frustrated and really angry husband.
Get a Dildo!
You've been married 12 years, sex can be important but as far as I can read you still have fingers.
Are you now did you marry for sex or love.
I married my best friend not the best lover I've ever had.

Are you kidding me? 12 years and you cannot manage one word of complicity? Hopefully you have both been getting help...as a couple. I'm no fortune teller, but your words say you are already done. Be honest with yourself. I hope your daughter is almost grown, because choosing your 40ish sex drive over a committed love relationship will simply teach her whats really important in life. Contrary to popular belief, your "what about me?" should have died when your child was born. We are supposed to pour our lives and energies into our children, not see how much of our own lives we can hold back for ourselves. That is what life is all about. Single parents just arent that good at producing healthy, whole adult members of society.

If you are still reading, and you really do still love your husband, be willing to do anything to make this situation work and it will happen. If he isnt willing to do anything or everything like joint counseling, etc., then thats on him.

Sorry I seem mean, your daughter will run circles around her generation...if Mom AND Dad are in the home as she matures. Statistical fact. Hope you change your mind.

This shouldn't be an attack on the poster. I thought this place was for guidence, help and sympathy. No, sex shouldn't be the most important part of a marriage or relationship, but it is important, nevertheless. It's the feeling of that closeness of intimacy and knowing that each other is still desired after so many years together.

Thanks everyone for your comments. It's imposible to share what I've been through in my marriage. I looked for support in the wrong place. Private counseling will be. 4Jesus thank you for your support.

Good luck, there is hope? Sorry, I didnt see that in your post. "Bigger picture thinking" gets us out of our own heads...despite the discomfort. I do wish you both well.

4jesus, Guidance is not and should never be only positive. If you see something wrong and are being asked for an opinion it is only fare to be truthful and have someone see the other side, if you are looking for only positive comments and yes-men then you are at the wrong place. PS I've been married 30 years and been without sex for the last 5 years and I would never consider giving up on my partner and best friend because of it. Iamafrustratedwife. You did look in the right group, you just didn't get the answers you wanted.

I can relate to "it's impossible to share what I have been through in my marriage". We often just touch upon the parts that matter most....to us.

(Every divorce begins with: "What about me?")

....that there is a, "I'm for Jesus" kinda mind set. For sure. Jesus is a really good example of "LOVE" and commitment...to us as humans.

I also admit, I fall woefully short of this great example of undying love. So trust this...I ain't judging Iamafrustratedwife. I'm just saying your "concerns" as presented in this post easily take 3rd or 4th place in a happy persons priorities. I trust you want to be happy. Right?

Again, I wish you both well! I believe you can have it all, and still be an example of love to the rest of us. Peace.

Sammy, I am not expecting only positive comments (or sugar coated "negative" comments), but how you made your first reply sound was a bit rude. 'Iafrustratedwife' is wanting support and probably answers.

Marriage is never easy even without ED problems, I hope things get better for both of you

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