Yes, there are people out here.

Since you want to talk about your situation, how do you want to start that conversation?

I am not handling it at all well psychologically. My partner is as understanding as possible, but I have been pushing here away, through a mixture of embarrassment and guilt. She suggested I seek medical help months ago but I resisted, and things came to a head this week. Now I have really hurt her, and have finally decided to seek medical help. But I also need to talk about this with some people.

I must stress that the problem was mine, not hers, and now she feels rejected and humiliated by my response. I have really messed up. Who can you talk to professionally about these things? Are they called Psychosexual therapists? I have no idea if such things exist in Portugal.

And I meant to say, thanks for the quick response, HankRT

For what it's worth, I would be happy to briefly share the pro and cons that I found about the pump. I have been semi impotent with most women all my life.. The pump does technically 'work' but the preparation time usually is a turn off for both partners..especially the lady. (Her attitude plays largely in the success or failure of the pump) My wife; with her own issues, was pissed off at the entire 'unnaturalness of using a pump..This attitude didn't help me at all. After about 5 minutes of pumping, mild pain, having the groin hairs pulled out in numerous areas, etc, you find that the penis starts to feel 'dead'.. in that no blood circulates due to the super tight rubber band which is snapped off the pumping tube and holds all the blood at the bottom of the penile shaft..The penis gets totally devoid of heat... It's cold! Removing the rubber band is more pain and hair pulling.. not a very pleasant experience... My wife felt raped. as my penis was larger and harder than she had seen in years.. and I was overanxious to insert the monster home.In fairness, I have read that the pump has been effective for many men.. but no man ever described it to me in such a direct way as I am trying to do here. Feel free to contact me for more info.

Archie,

We are all here for you. We all suffer from impotence or mild impotence and are constantly seeking others for advice and for someone to just plain out talk too. So please feel comfortable to open up.

I've been impotent for almost 5 years now due to my Diabetes Type 2. It has and will be a struggle for me for i'm sure the rest of my life. However, we find what works best for us, and thank the guy above for another day of life.

Not everything works for everybody and we have our up's, and downs about everything as well.

One thing you should do is talk to your doctor to find out what it is in particular that is causing your impotence. In almost every case of impotence there is an underlying cause. If you are unsure about what doctor to visit then go to your general practitioner, he will be able to refer you to someone who can help.

If you need someone to talk to you can feel free to ask anything or talk to me through private message or in this thread!

God Bless!

Bestione,

I understand what it's like to have the impotence problems you're experiencing.

Here are my main thoughts/suggestions. The more quickly you move to take appropriate action, the faster you'll understand what the problem is and how to handle it both physically and psychologically.

1. The first thing I recommend you do is see your doctor immediately. Most impotence problems have a physiological component or cause. In your case, you believe beta blockers are likely causing the problem. Specifically, I recommend that you see and talk openly to the doctor who prescribed the beta blockers.

2. Since you're very aware of the psychological and emotional problems you're having as a result of suffering from impotence the past several months, it makes sense to see a good therapist.

Your medical doctor may be able to refer you to a good therapist who works with men suffering from impotence. If not, you could ask the doctor how he/she recommends that you find a good therapist to talk to. You'll likely find an appropriate therapist by talking to your doctor. Most medical doctors have had a lot of patients who suffer from ED. This would be nothing new or unusual for them.

If for some reason your doctor can't help you find a good therapist, you can search online for therapists in your part of Portugal. You can see which ones specialize or work with people suffering from ED. Even before your first appointment with a therapist, you should be able to talk to him/her by phone and ask questions to make sure you feel comfortable with their experience working with clients with ED.

3. I suggest you send me a message. We can communicate that way in more detail.

What you do is up to you, of course. I strongly recommend that you talk to your medical doctor right away.

I agree with HankRT. I believe you should see your doctor before trying anything else. Good points.

I have bitten the bullet and been to see my doctor about the problem. I have done all the blood tests etc. and discovered nothing new there, so today I am going to book an appointment with an expert consultant in the field recommended by my doctor.

Well you took the first step Bestione. Let us know how it goes after this visit!

good luck

Best of luck to you. You're taking the first steps and it's something you should be very proud of. It's not easy to ask for help, especially about such a sensitive issue.

Keep your head up and try your hardest. No one can fault you for that.

You don't have to worry about it any more. One of my friend also suffering from ED and he found an effective methodology in shape of and Ebook. This ebook contains very useful and effective information that how to tackle ED. I can provide you the ebook free of cost. Just PM me... thanks

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Hi,

I think people above have absoluttly right - go and talk to Your doctor. I heard that recently medicine got some new weapons in fight withED so it wouldn't harm if you get to know why you have such problems.

I am fairly new to ed. It has been 5 years that I have not been able to have a eriction.It has caused so much turmoil in my marraige. We are to the poaint of talking about me moving out. But I had a erectile dysfunction implant placed, and then she tellls me that there is no romance left.