my hubby always thinks hes dying of cancer from my understanding hes had this issue for years and never got treatment for it he always talked about it with his mama and he never really had a life he always stayed right at home with her he did have a job that she helped him get where she worked at but he lost it when a new company took over then right after than we found out his mama had stage four lung cancer and she had a massive stroke a few years earlier and the chemo made her not be able to walk because of the type of stroke she had so me and him had to take care of her round the clock he noticed his tonsil was swollen and argued with her he thought he had tonsil cancer then she died the 3th of september he got severe grief and started looking up other kinds of cancers now he thinks hes got almost every type of cancer there is hes been to the doctor a two times he was given something for ibs which he wouldnt take because of the side effects then the second time he went to a different doctor and he got a paxil prescription for 20mg he was told to take half a pill for 7 days he took one half and said he didnt like some of the way it made him feel it did help his anxiety a bit but he looked up the side effects and he felt nausea and felt like he had to vomit and so i called the doctor to see if he could take half of a half and they said he could but he never even tried it that way so i from my research i told him to try to tell his self hes ok and nothing is wrong with him he did it a few two or three days now hes having a bad day today and hes pissed at me and the world and back to saying he dont wont to live because he thinks hes got cancer again hes got a counciling appointment for the 14th of this month the day after his bday ive been trying to tell him i thought he was having a mental breakdown and grief due to his mama dying and hyperchondira with that a little back story about me and my hubby we were together when we were 16 even lived together a few months before my mama came and got me and split us up and i went on with my life and had one it wasnt a good one but i had one and me and my hubby found each other again about three years ago on facebook and we have been back together for three years now but during the time i was gone from here he never had a life or dated i was and am the only girl hes ever been with he stayed at home till his mama got him the job where she worked at then she would take him and stay at work with him showing him how to do the job cause he wasnt ever around people much but her and his dad all his life then she had her massive stroke and almost died she was on life support he was up there with her by his self for the most part then she woke up and got better enough to go back to work he took her and picked her up then would go back to work him self and he did good long as he was working and she was here with him i came back a three years ago after all the stuff with her stroke happened a year or two before i came back then when i came back this year in febuary she got really sick at work so we took her to the hospital and found out she had a tumor on her left lung and it was stage 4 cancer we took care of her round the clock and all the while he was fussing with her that he had some form of cancer so much so she couldnt even ejoy the last days of her life or her last bday cause he was fighting with her about that and she was actually dying of cancer while he was doing all this but she let him do it and babied him so much with this stuff and he looked to her to tell him every thing from what to buy with his money to when he could go to town or basically anything he had to get her ok for it all and now he dont have that and hes lost and dont know what to do but look up cancer symptoms cause he dont wont to live without her cause he was never taught how to live without her if anybody has any ideas for how to help him with his issues im open to suggestion i really need some advice on this cause hes been this way so long with no treatment counciling or anything its really bad now hes got to be the center of attention all the time and i cant do that like his mama did for him so any help with how to help him adjust to life on his own would be helpful to ive tried alot of things ive looked up but nothing is working and he dont want to help hiself and take his meds