Oh I know how you feel I got my problem from a ex- girlfriend who knew she had it and never said anything about it till it was to late and has been a nightmare trying to get rid of it.

Your story is worse than mine - your partner KNEW she had HPV - wow, that is unbelievably horrible!! My boyfriend and I are old - we are in our 50s - we didnt have the vaccine available to us and both of us were ignorant to how prevalent HPV is, I read that in America 1 in 5 adults under the age of 60 have some strain of HPV. My boyfriend had no idea that he had HPV and I'm still mad at him but your ex-girlfriend KNEW she had it and didnt care so that is even worse! That's like an intentional assault. How can people intentionally do something that literally can result in getting you cancer? I'm so sorry that happened to you. I dont know how you can hold it together emotionally. I'm resentful and angry and my contamination was totally unintended.

There is no point of being angry at the person who pass it on. This sickness is already eating all my life energy and i dont want to think even a sec about that person.im not even try to thinking of it. Since the beginning i am ignoring that thought and so far it helps alot. All i can do for myself if i would be lucky enough to meet someone again i will be full honest and give the choice to that i never had for that person..

Are you sure that he gave the high-risk hpv to you? Since there is no test for men maybe it was dormant until recently and was given to you from a previous relationship.

Im sirry as it ia not the conversatiin and i was mainly focusing on the women part if the sickness. There is no test for men? So there is no way men can know if they carry it?

From what I have been told and read, there is no test for men, except I have read some men with active HPV in the anus can have a pap style test in the anus. I've read they are developing a test to see if there are HPV antibodies in the blood stream but basically there is not a commonly used screening test for men so unless a woman gets HPV and tells the man, the guy wont know he is a carrier and he will keep spreading HPV to every woman he has sex with which is why HPV is so prevalent, men dont know they have HPV or they dont care that they have HPV because hasnt directly affect them yet, so they pass it on and on and on.

I've had endometriosis since I started having periods. I was put on continuous birth control pills to prevent menstruating which resulted in no endometriosis pain since the pain of endometriosis occurs when you're menstruating, so no periods resulted in no pain. In order to keep getting the birth control pills year after year, I had to faithfully have yearly pap smears (along with the HPV test that comes with paps) so I've been tested every single year and the ONLY time I had a positive HPV test was last March (2017) after being with this current boyfriend.

Part of the reason why I have is sooo much anger and resentment towards him for giving me HPV is that we had an argument about his wastoid high school drop out son who is very disruptive in our relationship and we officially broke up for about two weeks but we got back together after we both cooled off from the argument. Well, during the two weeks that we were broken up he had sex with his wastoid high school drop out son's teacher!!! We had been together for 3 years and during those 3 years the pap smear and HPV test was negative, but AFTER he had sex with his wastoid high school drop out son's teacher my HPV test was positive which is why I'm fairly certain that my current boyfriend got HPV from sex with the teacher and then passed it on to me.

Most of the anger is from him having sex with the teacher but it's even worse that he passed on a deadly virus that is costing me sooo much time, energy, worry and EXPENSIVE MEDICAL BILLS. I have a $6,300 deductible so I've had to pay for all these HPV treatment myself. I have to have a LEEP in June and pay for that too.

Part of the reason I stay with this boyfriend is who knows when my HPV will become dormant and who knows if or when it changes from dormant back to active and I become contagious again. I would NEVER want to pass HPV on to anyone. Also, who knows if the next guy I have sex with doesnt have a different strain of high risk HPV and I'll get infected again. The nurse told me she has patients that go through all this and their very next partner re-infects them with another strain of high-risk HPV! There are several strains of high-risk HPV, you can be re-infected with a different strain and have this nightmare start all over again!

I know it sounds pathetic that I'm with him - in part - because we both have the same HPV strains so he cant re-infect me again. I'm fairly certain he wont cheat on me because he actually does feel bad that he gave me HPV. I've made it perfectly clear that if he ever wants to have sex with some other woman then he better have the common basic human decency to just break up and move up rather than cheat on me and give me another strain of HPV or some other disease. I think he is scare of HPV also. I told him men can get penis cancer from HPV and they have to have their penises cut off - that scared him.

Lol i liked the last sentences and i am so sorry to hear. It is not pathetic that you are with him.honestly i dont think any healthy men would like to be with me as well so if i would have a boyfriend carries the same sickness i would rather stuck with it as well...i feel like i dont deserve someone healthy :( i even checked std dating sites but then realized i dont think i can even be with a men..as specially if they dont know they carry this disaese ..i honestly dont k ow when i got this sickness as doctor told me it would be hard to guess so not sure which one of 2 guy pass it on me ...honestly both has high potential due to their lifestyle unfortunetly...i am not angry to the person pass it on me because it is big chabce that people might not know about it. I also learned because of genital warts and i request test therefore i learned that i carry type 68 and 58 and nornally warts are happening due to 10 or 11 if i am not mistaken. So if i wouldnt have warts i would never learned aswell..i didnt even kniw anything about hpv until i get..this is terrible that you get other strains of hpv..it scares me now even more to aproach to a guy again ..

The fact that there are several different strains of HPV makes it even more complicated to find a new partner. I dont know the specific strains that I currently have. My doctor's office tests for the 13 different high-risk strains as a group and I tested positive. They didnt give me the specific strain numbers because they dont test for each strain individually.

The nurse told me that she has several patients that go through the repeat paps, repeat HPV tests, colposcopy, the LEEP, and finally have their HPV become dormant only to get re-infected with a different strain from the very next person that they have sex with.

It seems like it would be very difficult to find a partner that has only the very same strain (or strains) of HPV that you happen to have, especially when many men dont even know they have HPV. Many men dont have any symptoms at all and there is no commonly used screening test for men. so many men only know they HPV when their partner happens to tell him. Even women that know they have HPV dont always know the specific number of the strain (or strains) they are infected with.

Younger people that had the vaccine are protected for only 2 - 9 strains of HPV depending on which vaccine they had and there are over 100 different HPV strains so even the vaccinated people are at some risk. The vaccine is still worth having but it doesnt fully protect you against all strains of HPV.

I dont know what the answer is. I hope there will be medical breakthroughs that could better prevent, detect, and treat HPV but until then, it seems like a big gamble to have sex with someone new because either you will infect them or they will infect you and neither of those options sound good to me.

I have a $6200 deductible, but just found out that my husbands employer pays half. I hope your boyfriend will see the need to help pay your medical bills. I don't know how I caught the hpv but I learned that I could have got it 27 years ago and it was dormant until I was under a lot of stress or my immune system weakened from getting older. I've only had 2 pap smears in my life, the first was when I was in my 20's I think. The question I have is if my husband dies who is the right mate for me? I think he'll have low-risk hpv because I read that will give some protection from cancer. If he has high-risk hpv too then I may need to have a hysterectomy of the cervix as a last resort (if the LEEP doesn't work) to prevent cancer. But what about cancer of the vagina and other female parts? Do they detect those cancers in time? At least they are more rare than cervical cancer. I hope that they will detect the hpv antibodies in males soon so that we can know what we are up against. Those are the men that will be looking to date us because most women without high-risk hpv wouldn't think of having a relationship with them.