That sounds so scary. I am sorry you had to go through it and I can imagine the unease that you are now feeling. Talk to Susan about it, she will understand. I hope everything get back to normal soon and you can enjoy your new marriage.

Hugs, Diane

How awful Pete - those awful memories are etched in our minds. What a terrifying thing to go through. Hope everything is better now.

Best regards
Vicki

Pete, I am sorry that you had to go through this. As Vicki said those memories are etched in our minds and when you face a situation that is nearly identical, how could you not be terribly shaken up. I am glad she is doing fine, but maybe talking out your feelings and fears with Susan will help.
Hugs to both of you,
Sallie

Pete,
So sorry and know this had to be frighting. I can't imagine how hard this was for you
So glad she is ok. Everything is fine.
Will keep you both in prayers.
hugs to you both,
Cie

Dear Pete,
I love your phrase, "I was able to pull it all together and support my wife". You were put such a difficult place and you made it. Of course, you will feel unease, this is scary stuff.

Pete, It must have been hard to breathe being brought back to that. So happy shes ok and you were"able to pull it all together" ((Hugs))
Brenda

Pete, I cant even imagine what you must have had to go through with this huge scare. I am so THANKFUL that she is ok and this was an overreation. Now that I, too, have a new future to look forward to, that thoguht DOES enter my mind on the what ifs, and how would it even be handled at all. Scary is an understatement, and sounds like from you pulling it together for your sweet wife, that YOU are such a HERO to her and the rest of us here.

MUCH LOVE to you pete, your wife, and your nagel who was watching you the whole time. Maybe that was why she was in the same room? To let you know that she is ALWAYS with you and now watching over YOUR BOTH.

xoxoxxoxoxoxoxo LOVE Diane

Pete, I can only imagine your initial terror. I am so glad everything turned out ok. I don't think any of us can do ERs very well.

How terrible that this happened. You seem to have handled it well. I agree with Diane and Marti, talk to Susan about it. Just so she knows, how scared you were. I don't think you should hold anything back from her, you are married now. I'm glad it wasn't as bad, as you thought.
Hugs,
Paula

Oh how awful for you. It is interesting the trigger we get. My new husband went on a diet and lost a bunch of weight and I started having panic attacks. My first faded away from cancer and got so thin, so his losing weight really brought that back even though it was a good thing. Bless you

Pete,
I feel so sorry for all you had to go through.... both of you. Scary stuff!!

Thank God you are both doing okay, and I agree with those who suggested that you talk with Susan and express the emotions you experienced! The love you have for her and the future happiness you two will share is all ahead for you both.

Wishing you much love and happiness always!
Linda

It is a blessing that it was just a minor problem, so glad you are both ok.
hug

Pete,

I can't imagine the trauma you experienced when you received the phone call; then, finding that she was in the exact same cubicle in the Emergency Room as your wife! For a few hours, you certainly must have experienced emotional chaos.

When we survivors suffered the loss of our spouses, the thought of enduring the future alone was overpowering; but we manage to carry on somehow. It is a HUGE dilemma, then, when we make the decision to consider another love in our life. Realistically speaking, there could be another loss in our future. That thought as well as additional extreme life changes scared the heck out of me. It was something that Dan (Daninmn) and I discussed many times at the beginning of our relationship: "Were we willing to place ourselves in that vulnerable situation?" I'm sure that scenario is discussed between those considering another love many, many times.

The posts on HH show without a doubt that the conclusion of many—once the heart begins to heal—is that when love is discovered once again the chance is worth taking. Pete, your contributions along the way of your new love inspired many to look to the future with a Hopeful Heart. So very happy that all is well with your wife. No doubt it will take a bit for you to calm yourself regarding the anxiety of the flashback; however, in so many big and small ways we are reminded how very fragile our futures are and that each day is magical and to be cherished. Blessings to you as you live out your new dreams. TJ

Hi Pete.. glad you are both okay.. that really must have been scary. Hugs Gail

Thanks all for the responses, Susan and I have had some long talks about our feelings about our loses. Sue's love had really not taken care of himself physically and that was one of her biggest worries; so I have made the effort to get all the checkups I should, excersise more and lose some weight. For her she quit smoking and is getting more excersise also (and trying not to let things get her stressed :-).

Even with the scare, love is worth the risk!

Hugs, -Pete-