Marilyn,
To add assault to injury is too much...
I think your own statement summarised it well.... you think, this new relationship had been a grief band-aid, and losing this band-aid brought the buried grief to the surface.
Who knows, after healing your heart, and look back at this relationship, you see it had its purpose and its time....
Meantime, take care of yourself, and find your unique self, and rebuilt your life.
Hug,
J

Thank you J....I'm trying hard to get through this. At this point not sure I want another relationship...friendship but no serious relationships.

I had a similar experience last year when I broke up with my first boyfriend after my husband died. I was heart broken and devastated. I wished that we would get back together. I then realized I had to forgive him and myself. It was an experience that I had to encounter as I learned a lot about myself. I am now seeing someone who treats me well.
Be kind and gentle with yourself.

Hugs,
Antonella

Thank you Antonella:

I understand it too but you have to realize it's just because you lost a spouse. That's for the rest of your life. I over reacted to a break up too. Give him some time and he will probably come back around. I didn't believe it when other people told me that my ex fiancé would but he did. Now, I'm wizing up a little. If I could turn back the clock, I would've gone much more slowly. Because it wound up just happening over and over again. I realized ginally I needed to meet other single men. Each one has their own story. Dating is hard. You didn't do anything wrong. It's just part of it. Each day, I learn something new about myself. Open yourself to meeting other men. It's not about looking to somebody else for your happiness, it's about opening yourself up to life and it's possibilities. Get out there and live. Meet new people, enjoy yourself! Don't limit yourself!
I'm sorry that you're hurting! But don't rely on a person for your happiness! Be the keeper of your happiness! you never know what tomorrow brings! Open mind, hon!

Such great advice from all! Hang in there and be kind to yourself! If he is not the right one for you there will be someone else. This is not a easy process we all have to go through and not everyone understands it! In fact sometimes I do not understand it! I am lucky to have found a very special guy who has been oh so patient with me. I have had to learn my happiness does not depend on him or anyone else but it has to come from within. That has not been easy at times but I am finding my new normal without Brad and have allowed a new man in my life. Good luck finding your new normal or maybe you actually already have? Hugs to you! Joni

Mel and Joni:

Thank you so much for your genuine responses. I am doing so much better. I start group grief counseling the end of this month and I am looking forward to it, if nothing more to be around people who truly get what each and everyone one of us on this site is going through. I don't believe he will come around and after doing much soul searching I'm not sure I need that right now. I'm going to try hard to get out and meet new people...but right now my trust issues are not on a positive note....maybe in a few months. Thanks again. The people on this site are truly amazing and I thank each and everyone of you.

You are amazing! Good for you for moving forward! We all have been through so much and Hopefully it makes us stronger! Thank God we have each other! Try to have a good weekend,