I am so sorry for the anxiety she is feeling. I was the same way when I was a kid going through school. I have younger children so I may not have the best advice but have you looked into charter schools? My children are enrolled through a charter school that supports homeschooling. Basically they provide books and a teacher visits us once a week tutoring each child for an hour. They also have field trips and a few on site classes at the school which is a converted church. There are 2 of these charter schools in our area. There are no dances as of yet. I hope you find something that works for you both soon :)

Hi Bonnieboo, I'm so sorry to hear your daughter has such a difficult time in school. I read where you said that she 'has anxiety disorder,' anxiety can be self-perpetuating. Since your daughter is not having trouble with the social component involved at school, then has she had learning problems from the very beginning?? Otherwise, is there some other specific cause to her anxiety? (maybe not now, but maybe originally?)

Can your school system provide academic assistance, either in class, during school hours in a different room ('resource center'), or before or after regular school hours? I am not a special needs advocate, attorney, or teacher, but if academics are the problem the school might be required to help.

Does your school system offer an option for partial enrollment? She could be enrolled for part of the day - mornings or afternoons , whichever works better for you all - and do the rest of her work at home. This would give her partial respite, and hopefully she could focus less on academics and more on coping (with anxiety) skills that she ought to be learning (in therapy) for the part of the day that she's in school.

When she goes to the nurses office, Is it because the nurse is giving her medication?? If the nurses office is just being used as a neutral place for her to calm down, then I wonder if she could take whatever work /text they were using in the class she left and go to either the school library or some kind of resource room and keep on working on her own?? When her anxiety comes on and she goes to the nurses office does she take her work with her??

You certainly could homeschool her if you both choose, but there are (and should be) other, in-school, options available to you.

As far as social activities and homeschooling... Some areas have homeschool coops or associations you can join that sometimes provide social activities. Al.so, local churches (if that fits with your lifegoals), libraries, and zoos sometimes have public activites for kids that are often (at least for churches and libraries) free.

At this point I would have more questions than answers about this. . Here are some links about kids and anxiety and one about home school groups :
https://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/dont-worry-mom/201302/12-tips-reduce-your-childs-stress-and-anxiety,

http://www.adaa.org/living-with-anxiety/children/tips-parents-and-caregivers

http://www.home-school.com/groups/

I hope you will find the solution that works best for you.

I was homeschooled because I couldn't function in public school. I had same issues. The homeschool did not help I still struggled. I am now a proud homeschooler because I go about it much differently then my mom did. For one it was abuse that caused my problems not school but school causes other problems. I think what would help is to see what's causing her anxiety and adhd then go from there. There are ways you can support her in the arts outside of school with little to no cost. It will just take some research. One idea is public chareoke talent shows church choir or if not attending a church start your own. Ok that was a few ideas. Check out band equipment on craigslist collect gradually tell her and her friends to have a go at it.

Hello Bonnieboo11! lol Funny seeing you here...I literally just decided to browse what other groups were out there on this website and chose to check out this forum...my only choice. I think I shared with you before that I was a product of homeschooling (all my life but 4th & 9th grade and I completed 3 years of college too) and I've homeschooled all my kids through 10th grade. If you have any specific questions, message me so we can talk more openly! ;)

So sorry that you and your child are struggling with this. I am generally very in favor of homeschooling, but it gives me pause that your child doesn't want to stop going to school. I would talk with her and perhaps her therapist (...maybe a new therapist that isn't against homeschooling, though) to work out how she both dreads school and dreads being pulled from school. That sounds to me like her anxiety disorder is not being well-treated by her current therapist. In addition, if a disorder of any sort interferes with a child's ability to attend or keep up in school, then (at least where I live, in MA) an IEP evaluation would produce a comprehensive set of free services to assuage her concerns and modify her days so that she has a better chance of succeeding in and liking school. (You may already have acquired these services for her, of course, but I wanted to mention them just in case.) There's no doubt in my mind that conventional schooling can exacerbate anxiety disorders, but homeschooling is not exactly a treatment, if that makes sense. If she wanted to homeschool, I'd say go for it and never look back! Of course, in most areas there are options for dances, chorus, art, etc. through homeschooling co-ops that are therefore free or low-cost. Maybe her reluctance would ease if she knew more about the goings-on in your local homeschooling community?
All the best to you!