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The highly sensitive person (or HSP) is someone who cares deeply about everything ... feels emotions with great intensity ... is highly conscientious ... has a rich and complex inner life ... is very intuitive ... is often creative in a variety of ways... is easily overwhelmed and/or overstimulated. A HSP needs lots of quiet time,space, and freedom. If this sounds...

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jupiterjazz 08/30/2015

Wondering if any others out there are very slow to move in relationships. Looking back, I remember I was always taking my time in getting to know others, especially in romantic relationships. I would wait about 3 months before I would have sex. I would only want to see the other person like 2-3 times a week, needing a lot of my own personal space.i When I compare myself to others, it seems that everyone else is moving so quickly. For example, one of my friends is always at her new boyfriend's house. They have been together about 2 months and they are already talking about living together.
Unfortunately, this slow moving has cost me in past relationships. The other person got the wrong idea and assumed I was not interested in them. It's just that it takes me a long time to warm up and develop trust in the other. I think a lot of relationships have not worked out because I was so slow moving.

J0KEYJ 09/01/2015

Im slow moving with people but then its because you really dont know a person..or I dont want to be false youre dealing with someones emotions ...for myself if someone goes because I was to slow then its their problem...those that have waited I have found they have stayed with me through good and bad...my friends who I havent seen when we do meet up it like weve not been apart for myself they have be the ones who have been the best..I dont want a quick buzz person as I call them..the person that will do till someone else comes along...I think youre path can cross with someone briefly and they can pass on valuable experience thats ok...but it a no to the hidden agenda types

nor007 09/14/2015

As much in friendship as in a romantic relationship, I do move very slowly.

I can relate to what you say and i would not change that...

I still would recommend to tell people when you like them (friend or more), then they know and will probably care less if you take your time.

If you like to spend time with someone or you did have a good moment with them, tell them, they will understand.

jupiterjazz 09/14/2015

Noor, that makes a lot of sense. I learned that lesson the hard way that you have to share how you feel otherwise people make assumptions. I used to be very guarded about sharing my feelings with people, but I am a lot more confident now.

jupiterjazz 09/14/2015

Sorry I spelled your name wrong, nor007.

nor007 09/17/2015

I had to discover HSP to learn that;

I was a safe with no feelings and I was asking myself how it is possible to be like that, to be so different, not wanting to share at all, being feelingless, if I wasn't so depressed at the time and if I did not push myself to change, I would never have discovered HSP.

I have a huge chance to discovered it young.

Now I try to say things when I have a chance, it feels good, and I think it is normal for other people, it is not weird like I used to think.

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