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The highly sensitive person (or HSP) is someone who cares deeply about everything ... feels emotions with great intensity ... is highly conscientious ... has a rich and complex inner life ... is very intuitive ... is often creative in a variety of ways... is easily overwhelmed and/or overstimulated. A HSP needs lots of quiet time,space, and freedom. If this sounds...

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lostsoul72
lostsoul72

Well that seems to be what everyone call's it today. I have always spent my life making love with the lady in my life. I dont know if its the HSP or what it really, but I have taken the physical and emotional side of intimacy to a higher level for myself and if the smallest feeling of love is not there then I dont let it get that far. I never could understand how some people can jump from bed to bed for just physical pleasure. I find that to be ultimatly degading to a person to allow others to use their body for such things. I know a lot of people that do jump from bed to bed and I guess I feel they are missing something in their life and looking to fill a hole.



For me it has always been and always will be making love.



What are all your thoughts on this matter.


nor007
nor007
Iif you don't understand people going from bed to bed just for sex, I think you don't understand the reason why you need love to have sex yourself. Judging people and to conclude that they are filling holes shows you are missing a huge point !

As an HSP, I am like you: I am unable to have sex if I am not in love. Even if my body wants it so much, my mind says no. It works this way because we are HSP. If you are not HSP, as soon as your body will start puberty, you will be chasing the opposite sex. The reason is simple : As HSP, our feelings are much stronger at such a young age than non HSP. It means while they are regulated by instinct of reproduction, we are regulated by feelings already. It doesn't mean one don't have the other, it means one is stronger than the other. The reality is more complex, I am simplifying.

People going from bed to bed, are not doing this only for sex, they are doing it because they are able to share a moment of love with someone without having to be close from this person. An HSP is unable to do that, as we already have difficulties to make simple relationships with stranger.

So yes, they are going from bed to bed for love, pleasure, happiness for a short time because they do not have at the moment the love of their life and they fill the holes/what they are missing, but we are all doing that in a way or in another.
dreamdancer
dreamdancer
I have always been just like you. When I was younger, I had plenty of opportunities to have one night stands or casual sex relationships, but I could not bring myself to do it. Sure, I felt like having sex, but it just did not feel right to share my body with a stranger or someone I barely knew. I thought I would loose myself and have an identity crisis of sorts if I were to do this...Interestingly, I've always fantasized about being "sexually liberated" and able to have casual sex, but in real life I just can't do it. I have compared myself to others who were having casual sex and felt badly about myself, as if something were wrong with me. I even lost my virginity to someone that didn't love me, but I hated myself for still being a virgin at the time. Now, I realize I perhaps should have waited because I was very hurt by the experience. So what if I became a 25 year old virgin? Right after the experience is when I actually started reading about highly sensitive people and realized I was an hsp. I have become more tolerant of myself over the years and realize this is just the way I am wired.