Yes, I like your ideas

Thank you Eyestwo22 and everyone... it's hard sometimes for us HSPs, but we do have to remember to put ourselves first. We have to set our limits and boundaries so we don't get overwhelmed.

hey yeh i have this issue also
when i am with bubbley people i am bubbley
when i am with moaners i moan
etc etc
sometimes i just dont know who or what i am
i can recognise some of everyone in me and i am where?
i dont know
and yeh i am supersensitive to people not liking me or disapproving to although i admit through therapy i have been working on this for myown good really

my first thoughts when i met someone used to be

does s/he like me?

now my first thoughts are to assess my view of them

i think this comes wth self esteem work though

and my self esteem is not high but i think in writing this you made me realise it has grown

anyway love and hugs and go with the flow xx

ps my ex therapist used to say ...whenever you feel something aways thin is this my stuff or their stuff before you buy into it

its a good starting point for dividing up the great miriad of feeling experienced every day by the HSP

try and view it as an intricat and exciting puzzle to unravel

first let me offer u a hug of friendship. and let u know what a truly beautiful person u are and how the world could use more pl who are sensitive and caring rather then so much hardness a and disrespect that goes on in our society,,,,,, so what u have is a beautiful quality,,,
now lets put it in perspective~ I agree with what others have said her but one comment stays with me. "im learning that the same care and sensitivity we give to others can be realy helpful to give to ourselves, loving yourself can help u learn and manage better"~ (missunderstood) I think those words were priceless and something to keep w you and to embrace,,, maybe jot them down lock them in our cell. you cannot possibly carry everyone elses emotions with you, and base your actions on others happiness or unhappiness there is a huge difference between emapthy and tying to take on the world,,,,,, The days we have talked and your not carryong on the emotions of others you seem so much more happy and and balanced,,,, plese give yourself the love happiness and acceptance you deserve...... u r a very special person. its ok to love yourself and respect yourself and honor your feelings and emotions, and know that we all seem to react to others moods/emotons in some way, the difference is to not become absorbed in them.... especially negative emotions, something im still learning~ wishing u many many positive moments,,,,,,,,,KD

I just joined this group and feel that I am in the perfect place already.This is the first discussion I have read and can identify with all replies. I could have written reply #2 myself. I can just add that I am so much a sponge to negative energies and moods that I can't go into large animal shelters which euthanize animals. The smells and noise and fear from the frightened animals actually hurts my body. I always thought I was abnormal. I'm 54 y/o and am finally discovering myself. Thanks for sharing yourselves with me.

glad you found us it is a beautiful helpful support group which i am thankful for

Hi feathersmom - Welcome, you have found a home here with us!

What you mention about the animal shelters has also happened to me. You are right, it hurts in all ways. Any person who thinks that animals do not feel and grieve does not understand that all living things are connected.

Hugs to you.

Thanks for your welcome and much appreciated hug cryingbehindmysmile. I feel like I have finally come home to a family that will understand me and not criticize my personality.Hugs back to you and everyone else who needs one today. Have a great day!

welcome home feathersmom ... I feel what you feel.

Sometimes I get so frustrated because of all the negative messages I have received all my life. I am so tired of being criticized & mis-understood. I'm at the point where I just want to protect myself from all the pain of life. If I think about what goes on all the time, I would get so depressed. I especially connect with animals & feel their emotions.

Thanks for your welcome Janvier. Yep, I have been criticized and misunderstood by my whole family during my entire life. I've also been labeled anti-social when I'm anything but. I've taken 24/7 care of my 92 y/o mom for the last 2 years while she suffered from Alzheimers and inoperable cancer.We never before had a close relationship. I was treated like an alien. She was never the mom I needed growing up but, towards the end, I got to be the mom I wish she had been to me. Her last gift to me was acknowledging that I always was "the sensitive one" in the family. That is why I google searched Highly Sensitive Support Groups and found my way here. I just buried my mom, exactly one week ago. We found closure and I found this support group. I'm grateful.

Hi feathersmom -

I can only think of a saying that I heard many years ago - "When the student is ready, the teacher will appear.."

Spirit knows when and where to direct us.

You were given a gift by your mother. It may have taken a long time to be given. It was there and still is. Accept it and then let it go.