You describe exactly how it is I feel sometimes, and I don't know what to do about it either!
Peoples moods do affect me, and it's like you say even positive things get you overwhelmed.
And the negative moods of others is hard to deal with.
I was told too, that I would toughen up... change in time, but like you say,,I think I will always be this way.
If we could change though, would we want to really? I dont know if I would want to be any different?

It is extremely hard for me to be around someone who is in an ugly/negative mood. Even if it is not directed at me personally, I am uncomfortable and no amount of trying to understand this other person's mood will make me feel better. If someone is giving off these negative vibes/energy, I feel like I am the sponge or baseball mit that is there to either soak it all in or catch it. Ugh....this is the type of situation that makes me want to bolt out of the room or area that I am in. I DON'T want to be around this type of person. However, if I have to be and am stuck with this type of person, I dread it. The energies are dead, heavy, burdensome, black, dark, etc. It is stifling for me. I just had this happen to me two days ago with clinical training in the course that I am taking. I got stuck with someone like this. Talk about an uncomfortable day for me. I had to endure it - and that is exactly the word, ENDURE it. If I had a choice, I would have walked out and away from this person but I could not. Oh boy, what a day. It made the day miserable for me and I couldn't wait till it ended. I feel it on all levels. If finally did, though, and I couldn't get away fast enough!

If someone is in a positive, happy mood, I love it and I love being around a person like that! It is such an uplifting experience for me. I feel like I am blessed when I am in the presence of someone like this. It makes my day better and happier and I am happy on all levels. Amazing these extremes!

The answer I have learned in controlling my moods is being in control of my own actions,there by choosing not to let other people's moods control mine.

For here you learn that Patience is always needed to "Endure the Truth"

Remember the old saying ....."To thine own Self be True"

Yes, you are describing how I feel. Other people's moods have a huge affect on me. I remember even as a child I was often told I had to "toughen up". I heard this from my father & other relatives & teachers & other children. I'm still the same all these years later. I really don't understand how anyone could NOT be affected by other's moods. Some people seem to "float" throuogh life oblivious.

Oh hello, Eyestwo ... I just saw your reply. I have always like the saying "To thine own Self be True"

Hi Alijoezack.
I know exactly what you mean(I think). You said one thing that caught my attention. You said,"I really don't care about my own feelings..." I'm learning that the same care and sensitivity that we give to others, it can be really helpful to give it to ourselves. Perhaps that's something you can work on. It sounds cliche but loving oneself can help you feel and manage better...and it's something I'm continually learning...but it helps. Your feelings are just as important and that doesn't mean you'll be insensitive to others...just more sensitive to yourself. I hope I didn't misread what you said but that's what I thought. We need our own sensitivity too.

thanks for your reply, im getting better about thinking about myself, just get scared cause when in a relationship i get lost in them. its all about them and i feel everything they do and i dont really want to do that anymore. yes i love be a warm caring person but when i cant control their feelings its hard. i dont want to get lost anymore. i know i definately need to work on liking myself so i can find a good kind person. thanks everyone have a great day

Hi alijoezack!

I send you love and strength. Now, go look in the mirror and tell the person you see there staring back at you that you love her!!!!!

Hugs and Blessings....

thank u

Yes. I very much identify with this. I like to practice detachment. I say practice because I haven't gotten it right yet.

YES IM VERY GOOD ALSO AT THE DETACHMENT THING. I TEND TO GO FOR THE BAD OR UNNABTAINABLE . I SAY I WANT A GOOD PERSON BUT DONT REALLY KNOW WHAT TO DO WITH ALL THE FEELINGS. ITS VERY OVERWHELMING MOST OF THE TIME.

alijoezack.. I completely identify with what you're saying. I always take on other people's emotions with little regard for my own. I tend to get lost in my relationships as well, which isn't healthy. But now that you've identified that you do that, you can do something about it.

yes im trying but some days easier than others. sometimes just want to fall apart. i dont want to get lost anymore just want to be able to relax and enjoy

Something for alijoezack and ALovelySoul to ponder ......
Courage doesn't always roar. Sometimes courage is to deep inside and is difficult to see or hear the quiet voice at the end of the day saying, "I will try again tomorrow."

Dr Fred

I am struggling with this today, right now. Other's anger is about to ruin what was going to be a great day. My advice is to stop everything and imagine an invisible force field around you, that angry words and vibes just bounce off of and cannot reach you. The other person's anger is THEIR problem to fix. Even if its a close family member. My husband and adult daughter are mad at each other this morning over Halloween candy that got thrown away. (yeah.....) and I'm stuck in the middle. I felt so sick I just gave up and got on the couch with a blanket over my head. I had tried to smooth things over, it didnt make a difference, so at THAT point you DO have to think about yourself and realize that you really only have yourself anyway (and God) and try to salvage the rest of the day FOR YOUR OWN SAKE.