Highly Sensitive People HSP Community Group
The highly sensitive person (or HSP) is someone who cares deeply about everything ... feels emotions with great intensity ... is highly conscientious ... has a rich and complex inner life ... is very intuitive ... is often creative in a variety of ways... is easily overwhelmed and/or overstimulated. A HSP needs lots of quiet time,space, and freedom. If this sounds...
Hi, first I would like to introduce myself as I am new to this group. I go by the name of Shawney (my parents wanted a girl but got a boy instead but still legally named me Shawna which yes I know is a girl's name but I've learned to live wth it.) I am glad to have found this discussion group as I finally have found all of the traits that I have been living with for years described as being a highly sensitive person. For the first time,I don't feel like I'm different or weird or will be judged as such. On my searching the web I ran across a page called empathy traits: 22 signs you are are a highly sensitive person and have all of those. What I am not sure of however is whether this was something I was born with or was it due to the fact that when I was a young boy, I was sexually abused for years by my father. Or did that make things worse for me because I was born with this trait. All I know is that I was teased a lot in school by the boys because I would cry easily even though I would try to hide it , I would get along with and hang out with girls more than boys, I loved horses, I would get my feeling hurt very easily, I would startle easily, refuse to watch violent action movies, hated being in crowds, and was very shy with few friends. Many of these traits that I still have today in my mid adult years.
we are here to support you in your interrogations and sometimes just support you.
i am currently doing a lot of researches on HSP, and what I found is you are born HSP :
It seems the nervous system is slightly more developped and transmit more information to the brain, the brain then process more information than it should, when you add both of it, it is the reason why you get easily overwhelmed.
There are also different kind of HSP: some live it pretty well, some can struggle sometimes, and some are really not able to manage it.
if someone is only hyperemotive or has ptsd, he will probably have a lot in common with HSP.
i would say to you to keep looking into HSP as you are going to find amazing things giving you explanations about everything which happened in your life.
And an important thing i just discovered is you have to find and fix all the traumatics events you got in your life, small or important, to live well as an HSP.
at first I have to say I'm feeling so sorry for what you had to endure. I must admit that I don't know how to react in a good way, but I just wanted to say that I'm sorry that you had to experience such horrible things. (I hope my reaction isn't inappropriate.)
As for your question: I agree with Nor. You're born with it. I think therefore traumata can affect you even more.
In general you can grow with your experiences and find out ways to cope easier with (at least "normal") difficulties. (But I don't think that it could ever be easy to cope with such traumata without a huge effort.)
Greetings,
Leni
-Shawney