Highly Sensitive People HSP Community Group

The highly sensitive person (or HSP) is someone who cares deeply about everything ... feels emotions with great intensity ... is highly conscientious ... has a rich and complex inner life ... is very intuitive ... is often creative in a variety of ways... is easily overwhelmed and/or overstimulated. A HSP needs lots of quiet time,space, and freedom. If this sounds...

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HSPHusband
HSPHusband

Is it wrong for me to look for my hsp wife to touch me or respond to sexual advances? Is it wrong for me to feel abandoned and neglected when we haven't made love in weeks or when she hasn't given me what's very important to me when I try to think about what she wants in every situation? Talking about it doesn't work because no matter how gently I say it, she feels guilt telling me that I deserve better which shuts her down even more. 

Veronica77
Veronica77
Ask her what is wrong and be prepared for what may come up. She may be giving hints that you aren't getting.
nor007
nor007
Ít looks like depression, it is common with HSP introverts.

When I am depressed, I don't want anything.

The big issue is it has no rational base and you need help from a psy or by reading the good books or articles or find your way.

There are many reasons behing a depression. It is not easy.
Lauriegirl
Lauriegirl
Talk to her and listen. A couple weeks isn't much to me. My bf has gone a month or more because I'm simply not in my the mood.
cachetteen1
cachetteen1
wow u play the victim card well. U sound like a whiney man, not a man who loves his wife, and she knows it. Unfortunately HSP's tend to attract narcissists. Every chair needs an ass as they say. Good luck.
Feelingsnwords
Feelingsnwords
I have just joined this group and wanted to respond to your comment. I am a highly sensitive person and my husband is not. He is a very physical affectionate person, as it seems you are. When I am overwhelmed and overstimulated by the events of the day, any type of attention physical or verbal is too much to handle. I highly value my husband and our marriage so I do what is necessary to show him that. As highly sensitive people, we need down time. If your wife has a lot going on, it may be beneficial for you to help her out. If she gets a bit of time to herself, she may feel up to giving you the affection and sexual attention that you want and need. A good marriage requires some give and some take. Moving beyond the traditional roles of husband and wife may be necessary for you both to be happy. My husband cooks a few times a week and does laundry. Being an HSP is not easy but neither is being in a relationship with one. Don't give up and I hope the best for you and your family.