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The highly sensitive person (or HSP) is someone who cares deeply about everything ... feels emotions with great intensity ... is highly conscientious ... has a rich and complex inner life ... is very intuitive ... is often creative in a variety of ways... is easily overwhelmed and/or overstimulated. A HSP needs lots of quiet time,space, and freedom. If this sounds...

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I need a little advice

PevinsLaura38
PevinsLaura38

Okay, here's the deal.


When I first found out I was Highly sensitive, I was a sophomore and it was such a monumental moment for me, because for the first time in my life, everything that had happened in my life made sense. I finally had an explanation as to why I am the way that I am. 


So fast forward two years later. I am now eighteen, and I have been reading online articles trying to understand how HSPs deal with things differently than others. I ordered the book by Dr. Elaine Aron a few days ago, and when my mom saw me with the book, she asked me what it was. I told her what a Highly Sensitive Person is, how I found out I was one, etc. I expected her to be understanding and accepting, but it didn't go as planned. She said that she doesn't think that I am an HSP and basically said that it's something that I'll grow out of. I tried to explain to her that our nervous systems are highly tuned and that we have more blood flow to the part of our brains that make us empathetic, but she went on to say that I should take this book "with a grain of salt" and questioned Dr. Aron's legitimacy as a doctor.


i know my mother means no harm, but honestly I feel like she's trying to tell me that something that I've accepted and embraced for two whole years isn't true. I feel like I've lost my identity and I'm so confused. I know I'm new to this chat but I need advice. 

nor007
nor007
Your mom is not your life, move on, this is a simple principle of life: you are alone !

You are HSP, and what happens if she does not believe you, it means you are not anymore ?

Really, you do not care, it is your life, don't let other people control you, mainly your parents !

If tomorrow you fall in love and introduce him to your mom and she says you should dump him, will you do it ?

I understand you because I was in your situation at 18, parents are overwhelming.
LisaHSP
LisaHSP
listen to your intuition, if it made you feel good to find out about hsp dont ignore those feelings, they are true. Your mum is from a different generation, its good of course to question and be a bit skeptical sometimes and not believe everything you hear but in this case it sounds like you've found something very important to help you with your journey at this stage, so keep exploring it for as long as it feels good xx
SimplyInspired22
SimplyInspired22
I understand your situation so much... my mother is the same way. when i was younger anytime i tried to get her to understand i felt different her response was always the same. your going through a phase and it will pass, or she shock it off and didn't pay me any attention. I'm 22 now and I've spent so much time trying to understand why I feel more than others. That's when I learned about HSP and i listened to the Highly Sensitive Person podcast and it was like a light bulb went off in my head. I for once felt like someone other than me knew what was going on inside of me. My words to you are this. This is your life.. Only you know what is going on with you. She's your mother and I want to say give it time maybe she will come around. My mom hasn't but everyone is different.
Camomile005
Camomile005
My mother also didn't take my problem seriously when I was younger. I am 24 and not until recently that we started to bond. But for a couple of years, I have learned that although I am my mother's daughter, I don't have to think her as part of myself. I have my own unique gift and personality she doesn't have, and I am allowed to use them and create my own beautiful life. The movie called 'The Prophet' by Kahlil Gibran mentions that, children are not from mother, but 'though' her, which I think is true. If you have time I highly recommend you check it out :) It may be hard to separate yourself from you mother especially when you are living in a same house, but no matter what, please never lose hope. This time of struggle will make you stronger more than you can imagine. God bless you.
Zhee
Zhee
Your mother may not mean any harm but she also neglects to speak with you about what is going on with you in a sensitive and involved manner. When a parent tells a child that they are going through a phase with out actual doing any home work to meet their child at home base then the parent is out of touch. Regardless of ones intention ... what ends up counting is what is really happening. what is really happening is that your mother is discounting your current involvement with understanding yourself. I learned the term and definition HSP much later then your self. I had people tell me I was really sensitive. It took me a long time to not only get it but that I can understand my self like my mother never could or will. The larger result is that I develop outside of being a child and outside of my mothers attention . Hope this helps.