Highly Sensitive People HSP Community Group
The highly sensitive person (or HSP) is someone who cares deeply about everything ... feels emotions with great intensity ... is highly conscientious ... has a rich and complex inner life ... is very intuitive ... is often creative in a variety of ways... is easily overwhelmed and/or overstimulated. A HSP needs lots of quiet time,space, and freedom. If this sounds...
I wish that I knew how to not take things to heart. I get upset over the least little slight by my boyfriend or even complete strangers. I always feel like I need to take care of everyone else and don't really focus on myself. I need time alone and take it because without it I would feel stressed and out of sorts. I want to interact with others but only on my own terms. I interact so much better online because I can really think about what I want to say before I say it. There's no body language to worry about. I vent to online to a friend but otherwise I never really express my feelings out loud. I dislike getting upset so easily. My mother always said that I needed to grow a thicker skin but I don't know how. Sometimes if emotions become too much I shut down and become numb to everything. That's not a good way to be either. I spend a lot of time inside my head. Crying when I'm really upset just makes me feel worse. I am extremely sensitive to rejection. I try not to look forward to things so that I won't feel disappointed. I feel like life is passing me by, that I'm always on the outside looking in. I want to join in but I don't know how. I get really frustrated with the behavior such as their rudeness, when they are inconsiderate, and when they are loud. I feel most comfortable with one or two good friends. I feel really uncomfortable in groups.
I have felt on the outside looking in, now I prefer it that way, my surprise. I can join in on society anytime but with nothing invested I stay clear of any problems. I used to think my life was passing by and now I think-Yes it is! But I am going to do it on my terms and based on how I feel or think, with no harm done to another. The angst of all of it has lessened.
I still take things to heart, that is important to keep compassion alive. I like the inside of my head. Crying great sobs is therapeutic I think, for me anyway.
I do better with online friends too. no body language to misinterpret, no facial expressions to misread and that tone of voice thing too. YET those also make hard for me to be online.
Wishing you well-keep taking things to heart, it will keep your "self" alive.
I think you can too.
1) Don't care about what other people think about you, you are free and their judgement are not relevant.
In order to succeed to do this, don't judge them on anything, don't go with people who judge ( it is a bad advice at the end because most of the people judge and you will be ofthen alone... but it is easier to go on for me at least)
2) If it's too hard to get over it, don't think about it, to no think about it, think about something else which is more important (can be often sad but...)
These advices are not ultimate solution, and won't solve everything but I think it helps.