Thanks :)

I would take some help too !!!

I am 23, and a man.... and I really believe in true love.
And I have been single all my life too.

It can seems stupid but I cannot imagine my life as HSP in a different way.

And I often think I will die alone but I have this hope inside me that one day I will find it, the one you meet once in your life.
It is frightening for so many reasons.

it is easier to live with it knowing you are HSP, because before I was wondering a lot of questions on myself, like why I declined so many times opportunities with girls...

But now, I know I would decline it if I do not love the girl, and I really hope I am not in a fairy tale.

Sometimes I am really sad and desperate, but most of the time I am so happy to believe in true love and love.

And you made my day knowing I am not the only one !

Sorry to come so late on this topic, I have been away for some while, hope I will see you again here !

Hi, I'm new to the forum so sorry for the late reply.

First of all, there is no such thing as Mr. Perfect :) Maybe someone 'perfect' for you, but everybody has their flaws and to really love someone I think you have to completely accept them, flaws and all.

If you haven't had a relationship it's unlikely you're going to meet 'the one' first time round, though you can enjoy and learn a lot from having different relationships.

I think the best advice is to focus on loving yourself first of all, the rest will fall into place :)

Good advice lextriplex, live and learn...some people don't enter the race if they think they cannot win, but entering/playing is much better than being stood on the side lines. You may loose, but to win you need to learn how to loose lol

Lose

Don't hurry! I did, and spent 20 yrs. with the wrong person. I had given myself a deadline. My parent's gave me a deadline, and if I just waited, I would know the right person.

I think when you take the pressure off, the right one appears.

Take care.

See my post on "How do you guys feel about having children?"

I was exactly like dreamyHope and nor in my 20's. Very romantic and had this hope that there was true love out there somewhere. I decided to "play the game", but could have given it more effort, I think, and regret that I did not know how to communicate back then the way I do now. But would never have gotten to where I am now if I didn't go through everything back then. I got hurt so many times and had opportunities to just have fun, but could not allow myself to do it because of my very high standards. Needed to find someone whom I thought loved me before I could loose my virginity, but then eventually just gave up on that. Was disillusioned and hurt, but still did not give up on the idea of true love. Like someone else said here, there is no Mr. Perfect or Miss Perfect, but maybe the perfect one for you or at least someone you could be compatible with and grow to love. Friendship is so important along with open communication.