Highly Sensitive People HSP Community Group
The highly sensitive person (or HSP) is someone who cares deeply about everything ... feels emotions with great intensity ... is highly conscientious ... has a rich and complex inner life ... is very intuitive ... is often creative in a variety of ways... is easily overwhelmed and/or overstimulated. A HSP needs lots of quiet time,space, and freedom. If this sounds...
I have come to feel that the VASTE majority (like just about everyone) of people think of only themselves and what they can get from others.
I see it with my kids too, where other kids use eachother constantly, leaving people out with no feeling for how it makes the other person feel.
I always try to include people (and tell my kids to do that too) and to call people if they are ill. Rarely (usually NEVER) do people do the same for me or my kids.
I tell my kids that they have to grow a tough outer skin because I don't want them hurt by others like I have been....but everyday I am reminded of how disallusioned and disappointed I am with people.
I see it with my kids too, where other kids use eachother constantly, leaving people out with no feeling for how it makes the other person feel.
I always try to include people (and tell my kids to do that too) and to call people if they are ill. Rarely (usually NEVER) do people do the same for me or my kids.
I tell my kids that they have to grow a tough outer skin because I don't want them hurt by others like I have been....but everyday I am reminded of how disallusioned and disappointed I am with people.
Naturegirl, you did the right thing backing off from that one gal who wanted to take all your time. I have had friends like that and eventually I was forced to pull the plug on the "friendships" that are indeed one sided. Now I tend to see them coming and have since learned to define my boundaries with people as I have only so much energy to give having fibro and have a right to have my own time to myself anyway. Boundaries are something a person has to practice at yet it is so worth it.
i THINK it might be a matter of boundaries... but i'm not real up on the subject of boundaries...
one time, when i was young, working my way thru university as a bartender, a guy came and sat down at my bar, it wasn't busy, and i couldn't get away, and he just started talking and talking and getting creepier and creepier, and honestly, i didn't know what to do, and i felt trapped, and i think i often feel trapped in such conversations... but this guy, in the end, started talking about how he molests children, showed me his fishnet stockings under his jeans, and then pulled out a gun, i ran, called the police, told the bouncer about it quickly and left to go home, i was so sick...
and it's hard to believe that this kind of thing can happen, but where does the line get crossed? at what point do you walk away? and if you can't walk away, what do you do?
for me, i am going to try and cultivate solitude in my life, i'll talk on this board, and i have a couple 'safe' friends... but i'm not going to go out on any limbs anymore.... if you find you want to be my friend, you are welcome to approach me VERY GENTLY... and i mean with a fine like delicate china approach... because i'm too old for this stuff lol