Definitely! That happens to me constantly, and I agree that often times the bad seems to be worse than the good is. On one hand I think it's a good thing, but on the other it really sucks. I guess all we can do is look at the positives and try to make the out way the negatives about it.

Yes i can relate to this. Sometimes also, not only with a happy event that must be balanced out, but with happy or relaxed periods. For example, i was happy to have finished a renovation in my house. It felt great, i was relaxed and happy about it for a few weeks. But then it's as if i should find something else to obsess about or be sad about, then work on that.

For me, i think it comes from my childhood. My parents were kind of miserable and uncomfortable with feelings and emotions. They were somewhat controlling.
Feeling too happy was not good in my house. If i was really happy about something, they would be happy with me for a few minutes, but then they would try to find the negative side of the thing. My happy feeling would then go to neutral and soon after, to actually feeling bad and worried about the thing.

Could this feeling be coming from your childhood?
Were you allowed to be really happy and excited when you were young? Or did someone always come along to burst your bubble?
Did your family join into your excitement, or was there someone there frowning and telling you to calm down?
Does it feel safe to be happy, or does it feel kind of out of control and dangerous to you?

I agree with looking at the positive, but when your feelings become physical and the pain of sadness real, looking at the positive does not work anymore.

I know that when I am good in my life, it will decrease, when it is poor, it will increase.
I started to understand these period have a very precise duration in time, always repeating with regularity.
And also it come from me most of the time. I noticed that meaningless event in poor period could increase the feeling.

My parents may be a part of the reason but as far as i remember i always have been this way:
The calm inside me tells me not to get excited, the overthinking tells me when I am not going to have fun if I do it, the introvert tells me not to show your feelings, ... and it goes on.

Moreover, I am not able to enjoy some simple things that other people can enoy because my brain is not stimulated enough.

To answer your questions : Yes, I was allowed to be happy and excited, not all the time so. But I have personally always had trouble getting excited.
Nobody was there to burst my bubble.

I have always been very calm, so nobody never told me to calm down, but it is true nobody really understood the thing I was excited for and so following.

Being happy never feels like being happy because it never last. I would say it feels more safe but dangerous because it can stop.
I don't even know what it feels to be happy for a long time...

I suppose that is right, but then again I'm still pretty young. I'm still a teenager and therefore still live with my parents, so looking at the bright side is pretty much all we can do sometimes. Yeah it doesn't really work, but I've always thought that trying to do that is better than doing nothing.

Even though I'm young, I'm not too young. I'm still only a year away from being a legal adult, so I know my environment well. For me, I just don't express well. Even if I am excited, I have trouble showing that to people. My family try to make me show how I'm feeling, but when they do they don't like it for very often. I've always kept to myself, and I think that may also be a factor in it. It's hard to be entirely happy when you have no one to really share it with. I think that always drag you down.

To be honest though, there's a lot of different things that can add to this and everyone is different too. No one experiences something for the exact same reasons, but at the very least know your not alone in these feelings

I can really relate to this! I've come to not trust happiness or good things because I know that they won't last. Whenever I have a really good day it is inevitably followed by a bad day. The bad day is much stronger than the good. I deal with chronic health issues and one which is being investigated so I am dealing with those issues. I feel like I have no control. I am in remission from stage 2a colon cancer.(I never had chemo). Last night I really enjoyed watching movies before going to bed. Today my boyfriend was in a bad mood before work and his bad mood really affected me. I feel like crying and really depressed. My childhood was chaotic growing up around my mother's alcoholic some of which were abusive. I never knew what to expect and was always on guard. I lived with a foster family from the ages of 15 to 18. I was married to an emotionally/psychologically abusive man for 7 years. That marriage really affected my self esteem. Our son lives with my ex husband and I've only been able to see him once in 2007. He turns 14 in July. I feel out of control when it comes to my son and to my health! There are some days where I shut down emotionally and don't feel anything. It's a means of protecting myself when my emotions become to hard to handle. I get my tumor markers checked every 3 months and yearly ct scans. I have a colonoscopy on July 6th to try to find out what's been going on with my digestive system.

@KAddict : As I was in your position not so long ago, i can tell you how I overcome being a teenager : I was always thinking about the future, how it would be once I would be independant.
It helped a lot and it hapened it was all true... at the beginning.

Then you realise nothing is really moving on, there is something wrong, and you try to correct it to move on but it takes times and even more time when you get older. You get more impatient also.

You are very lucky to know you are HSP so young.
Learn the more you can now, and try to find your true personnality.

Be careful in what you believe, and do not start finding excuse not to be happy. I mean you are allowed not to be, but your age by example is not an excuse.

Thinking positive is a simple process which can be difficult to apply in reality, but you are right, I advise you to keep doing it and read how to do it it is very important.

For me, I agree with you, my parents were the worst in my life. Not their fault, but the pressure they put on you and they don't understand what it is to be different. Don't let anybody tell you what to do, not even your parents.

To finish I would tell you:
1) being a legal adult doesn't change anything in your life except if you can have a car, drive and go away from home some time to time (expensive and so often not possible)
2) If you think being happy rely on sharing it with someone, please change your mind. I don't say it is not true, i say you are going in a very bad direction, trust me on this one, ask question if you want I'll explain.

@Darknessemb. : hugs ! Your situation is complicated, I wish you to find your way !

@nor007: I can relate to your experience. I encountered the same too; can neither be too happy nor sad. Whenever I'm happy (feeling high excitement), something will happen to pull my emotion down. Alcohol affects our emotion and thoughts. When we are upset, alcohol worsen our thoughts. I stopped alcohol so that I can manage my thoughts/ emotion better. When my emotion is really out of control, I would listen to music, draw, colour, or do anything that can drift my negative thoughts aside. Agree with you that being legal adult doesn't mean or change anything. Being adult, we hold higher responsibilities. I understand where kaddict is coming from. Being HSP, most of us must be feeling lonely (inside the heart). Is there anyone who disagree with me? If there is someone (just one person will do) who can understand our situation, wouldn't it be great for a celebration?

@lobeliabaggins: Same for my family background too. When I was young, my parents would criticise me whenever I sing out of happiness. When I do well in school, they never recognise my success. Like what nor007 has shared, it's not their fault. They came from different background and unaware about our traits.

@darknessembraced : Wish you a speedy recovery. Be healthy, happy and positive.

Thamks bearchain, it is always good to know there are people who live(s/d) the same situation. It means we are several people working on our problems and I hope if one of us find the miracle solution, he will share for other to be happy also.