if he loves you, he will try to understand and he shouldn't want to do anything that could hurt you. if he doesn't then he isn't worth it. i hope things work out.

If he has a problem with you being uncomfortable with sex dump his ass!!!!!!
If he's really that big of asshole you don't want to waste another second on him.

I don't know if he has a problem with it, my main issue is that I am so paranoid to talk to him about it. He is a really great guy, I just don't know how he will react.

If ur uncomfortable, he should understand. A relationship isn't just about thr sex.

I know a relationship is not just about the sex. We didn't base our relationship on physical stuff, it started with a lot of talking. We talked about everything, but somehow I still am paranoid about this one thing, even though we have talked about every other possible thing that we could come up with to talk about together, I really don't know why I am so nervous about this one topic.

Y' know, It's like totally okay for you to keep the relationship at a level of just hanging out and talking. He might be uncomfortable talking about it with you at first, but he should understand if you give him time. It's a pretty understandable topic, it happens to a lot of people, and you'd only get closer (especially trust-wise, which is important for guys) after telling.

It's gonna b okay, it should work out. Don't be in a hurry to make physical moves in the relationship, make him earn it or he'll treat you like you're worth less.

We have made out so some physical stuff has kinda happened, but he is really sweet. He treats me like gold and hope to keep it that way.

Well it kind of depends on your age, how long you've been together, and how much experience you each have from past relationships. No matter what happens, don't ever sleep with him just to stay in the relationship. It won't do anything but mess the whole thing up, trust me. I hope it works out for you :)

We are both 16 and have been together almost 3 months, we have known eachother for about 3 1/2 years. Neither of us have experience with anyone, I am his first girlfriend and he is my second boyfriend (my first was when I was 11 so nothing happened.

We are both 16 and have been together almost 3 months, we have known eachother for about 3 1/2 years. Neither of us have experience with anyone, I am his first girlfriend and he is my second boyfriend (my first was when I was 11 so nothing happened.

i use to like i was terrified too, i also was abused as a child, get this i waited till i was 19 years old to have sex. i was with him 9 months took along time and alot of trust im still with him and about to get married, best of luck to u, and try to be open and honest with him and the key to any relationship it open communication.

Just calm down. When your in the situation, where sex seems like it is going to happen, and you start to get uncomfortable, SPEAK UP! Just tell him, "I don't feel very good about this..." He should continue the coversation with you somehow and if he asks why just tell him you had some bad experiences with sex when you were younger. If he is a good kid he should really care about you and if you can feel is compassion, if he says something like, "We can wait until your ready." My advice would be to have some sort of sex with the guy, he obviously cares more about you then your body.

IF he says, " Do you really need to wait..." or something like that, tell him no sec right now. If he breaks up with you cut your losses and move on, if he stays with you give him a second chance.

if he loves u he will gett it !!!!!!! its not ur fault and he will get that !

Have you told him about your molestation yet? I think you should when you get to the point where you're thinking about having sex. It'll be easier for both of you if you're open and it'll only bring you closer in the end. Once you tell him you can discuss how to deal with it. I don't think you should worry so much about it now though. You'll make yourself cry before the milks even been poured.

Take it slow and you don't need to tell him until you feel you are ready. When you do tell him, make sure that you give yourself enough time to explain it completely to him. Good luck!