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Hi, I haven't been here a long time. To Summarize, my Son is 28 years old. Been using Heroin since 17. Supposedly he stop the last 8 months. Been living on the streets of NYC, and now Oakland, CA. We live in the Suburbs of Chicago. My son has been given many many chances and been to many many drug rehabs. Also he was given court supervision 3 times and of course walked out of halfway house 3 times after only staying a few days, hence, he purposely chose to have felonies on his record, and chose 6 mth in state prision rather than 1 year in a half-way house and no felonies.
Ok, now to present. I was in in Davenport IA, in late June with my son and he look good and a friend was going to let him stay there for free while looking for a job. Oh, by the way, he stilll has a outstanding warrant in Illinois. Which of course we been begging to go back and serve the time to clear up, he won't. He doesn't wantto stay, and likes Oakland, though this is safer and his freind is sure he could get a job there.
My Ex-wive, has been giving him money, lots more than me as I am now finding out, so I guess I am or have been enabling to in a small way, but enabling .. Anyway, he had this craxy and I mean crazy girlfriend wh o he told me almost stab him in Oakland. We talkk and he tells me he'll never go back to her and she is crazy out of her mind.
two week later his crazy GF calls and says she may be pregnant , possible with his baby. I beg him not to go back. My EX who flies for united, flies him anyway. Well, as it turns out, she not even pregnant. We all saw that one coming.
Moving forward 1 month. He losing his apartmant in Oakland. I thought he was working, it turns out my EX has been giving him money. SO, why should he turn himself in. Anyway now homeless, he gets a call from his crazy GF. He goes there.
Two days later, she stabs him over him taking her taco, yes, you heard right a taco . My Son is not violent and would never even raise his hands. She stabs him several times. She gets the liver, and part of the lungs, his stomach is ripped up pretty bad. Surgery and in the hosp for 1 week. COmes out has pills etc, needs staples taken out. We both agree to put in out in a Hostel for a week and other expenses.
COmes the problem. Three days ago, while recupping, I tell him enough is enough we both can't be supporting you as we are both near retirement age etc, plus, he's been mugged several times, run over by a cab and hospitalizled, robbed, stabbed I can't even count, lost a dozen phones, etc ,etc,
SO i tell him you got chocies just like before but not as good. CHose wisely, because I am not paying for another week, COme home turn yourself in, get rid of the warrant, do your time, go to meetings, meet people that might help you get a job and we will help if you are really trying.
He puts me off, and says he doesn't want to talk about. Sunday, when his time is up at the Hostel, he calls me from a pay phone because supposedly he dropped his phone in the water. (FIgures) SO, Now I got 3 minutes to think if I want to run to Western union and send him $250, or else!
Then my ex gets into the act ans says she all out of money. I just put my foot down, even knowing he is still healing a bit after 1 week out of the hospital and say I need to think about this.
Now I want to do it, but only if he comes home and does his time, then I would pay the money directly to the Hostel, not him.
Now I can't get a hold of him. Has no phone, I guess no money.
SO, now I am being told by my ex, that I am repsonsible if he dies. I say, he has chocies to live, and being on the street he has had a terrible time anyway. WOULD YOU GIVE IN TO THESE DEMANDS. I KNOW, I FEEL BAD AND DON'T WANT TO SEE HIM SUFFER OR THINK OF SUICIDE OR GET KILLED BUT THIS I FEEL WILL NEVER END! THS
Ok, now to present. I was in in Davenport IA, in late June with my son and he look good and a friend was going to let him stay there for free while looking for a job. Oh, by the way, he stilll has a outstanding warrant in Illinois. Which of course we been begging to go back and serve the time to clear up, he won't. He doesn't wantto stay, and likes Oakland, though this is safer and his freind is sure he could get a job there.
My Ex-wive, has been giving him money, lots more than me as I am now finding out, so I guess I am or have been enabling to in a small way, but enabling .. Anyway, he had this craxy and I mean crazy girlfriend wh o he told me almost stab him in Oakland. We talkk and he tells me he'll never go back to her and she is crazy out of her mind.
two week later his crazy GF calls and says she may be pregnant , possible with his baby. I beg him not to go back. My EX who flies for united, flies him anyway. Well, as it turns out, she not even pregnant. We all saw that one coming.
Moving forward 1 month. He losing his apartmant in Oakland. I thought he was working, it turns out my EX has been giving him money. SO, why should he turn himself in. Anyway now homeless, he gets a call from his crazy GF. He goes there.
Two days later, she stabs him over him taking her taco, yes, you heard right a taco . My Son is not violent and would never even raise his hands. She stabs him several times. She gets the liver, and part of the lungs, his stomach is ripped up pretty bad. Surgery and in the hosp for 1 week. COmes out has pills etc, needs staples taken out. We both agree to put in out in a Hostel for a week and other expenses.
COmes the problem. Three days ago, while recupping, I tell him enough is enough we both can't be supporting you as we are both near retirement age etc, plus, he's been mugged several times, run over by a cab and hospitalizled, robbed, stabbed I can't even count, lost a dozen phones, etc ,etc,
SO i tell him you got chocies just like before but not as good. CHose wisely, because I am not paying for another week, COme home turn yourself in, get rid of the warrant, do your time, go to meetings, meet people that might help you get a job and we will help if you are really trying.
He puts me off, and says he doesn't want to talk about. Sunday, when his time is up at the Hostel, he calls me from a pay phone because supposedly he dropped his phone in the water. (FIgures) SO, Now I got 3 minutes to think if I want to run to Western union and send him $250, or else!
Then my ex gets into the act ans says she all out of money. I just put my foot down, even knowing he is still healing a bit after 1 week out of the hospital and say I need to think about this.
Now I want to do it, but only if he comes home and does his time, then I would pay the money directly to the Hostel, not him.
Now I can't get a hold of him. Has no phone, I guess no money.
SO, now I am being told by my ex, that I am repsonsible if he dies. I say, he has chocies to live, and being on the street he has had a terrible time anyway. WOULD YOU GIVE IN TO THESE DEMANDS. I KNOW, I FEEL BAD AND DON'T WANT TO SEE HIM SUFFER OR THINK OF SUICIDE OR GET KILLED BUT THIS I FEEL WILL NEVER END! THS
My son is 29 and has been using heroin for I don't even know how many years. Once thing I can tell you is giving your son money is a bad idea. It's just enabling the habit. It got so bad that I wouldn't give my son money or even any sort of gift he could return for money. I was afraid he was going to use it for heroin.
He's been to detox/rehab at least 5 times but it doesn't do any good if he gets out and runs around with the same people. Unless they want to get clean and I mean really want it, they aren't going to stay clean.
Oddly enough my son also pulled the "my girlfriend is pregnant" lie on me too. I guess they think it's a way to get free money from their parents.
I got lucky, my son ended up going to prison for driving on a suspended license and sale of a look alike substance. I know it sounds messed up to feel lucky that he's in prison but at least he's been clean for almost a year now.
If your son does come back to Illinois to turn himself in , which is where I live too, see if he can do his time at Southwestern in East St, Louis. My son says they have a really good rehab program there.