My husband and I have been married 12 years this June. We have had our ups and downs throughout our relationship. I have kicked him out in the past (never lasting longer than a week) and let him come back. Things get better for awhile then get back to the same. I have known about his occasional marijuana use and prescription drug abuse in the past. He went through a period of alcohol dependency as well but we went to counseling and as far as I knew hadn't drank since. We have a 10 year old and had a new baby a year and a half ago. During my last pregnancy he started going out more and staying out late. The people he started hanging out with I didn't know. Then he got secretive with his phone. Fast forward to the last 6-8 months. Shady behavior, staying up for days, money missing, can't keep a job. I would of course always question who he was with and what he was doing. Any time I mentioned drugs of course he said no. He is a charmer and always made me feel crazy for questioning him. He had a heart attack at 33. Even then I didn't want to think drugs even though his family accused him. This was 6 months ago. Even after the heart attack the lies continued and he couldn't even keep up with them. I finally found the drug paraphernalia and confronted him. Even then he lied but I packed all of his things and told him to get out. That same night his car was repossessed. Fast forward to now (this was almost 2 weeks ago). He admitted to being on heroin and meth and whatever else he could get his hands on. He is staying with his parents who have got him in a recovery program and he is waiting to go to a rehab facility. I haven't let him see the kids and 2 days ago was the first time we talked since he left. His father brought him to meet me. I wrote him a letter of all the things I had found out (texts, Google searches, GPS locations) and how I felt our whole marriage has been a lie. He told me he has been an addict for the last 10 years with the harder stuff starting after our last baby was born. He said he has never cheated but I don't believe it. I don't know what todo. I still love him but I am so angry and feel betrayed. He was doing heroin out in his shed outside and then coming to watch our baby when I went to work. Am I doing the right thing keeping him from the kids until he gets into rehab? Will I ever be able to trust him again?
Hi... I am wondering if there's any adult women in this group who would like to be chat buddies to offer each other support for depression.
I recently met sum1. We started hanging out and they shared with me they suffer from depression too. I shared a lil about my battle with it. A few days ago they sent me a text saying they thought I used feeling depressed as way to illicit sympathy from others. This really hurt me. I would have thought they knew me better but apparently not. I have been thru a lot and have also done a lot and do a...