I have never been able to make it happen. Usually when I plan it out it doesnt go the way I want it to. My expectation is the let down. Have the two of you talked about what you want and what each of you feels love making is? That might be a good place to start. I hope that helps.

I used to be like your fantasy.

I usually left after the fun part though:)

There is a honey moon phase to relationships from my expirience. It lasts for a while and then it turns into best friends who have sex all the time.

I like both.

Movies are fucked up in my opinion. They build up the fantasy romance thing and leave out the real life part.

Sorry you're not getting what you want.

Sounds like you've got a pretty good guy though.

Rob is right, Hollywood builds up romance and misrepresents what it truly is, also i believe that the anticipation to sex sometimes overtakes the reality of it, the feeling is not half as good as the expectations of it- in my opinion

TRUE ROMANCE STARTS IN YOUR RELATIONSHIP,NOT IN THE BED ROOM.ITS NOT A SWITCH YOU TURN ON AND OFF OR "MAKE" HAPPEN,IF YOUR RELATIONSHIP HAS TRUE ROMANCE IN IT ,IT WILL PERMIATE ALL ASPECTS OF YOUR RELATIONSHIP.

Dreams are fun to imagine, but it is not real life. We are made up of our trips and flaws. That is what makes us special, even though we mess up, we are worth loving.

maybe your expecting to much dont plan it chick and let it come naturally it may take time but it will happen xx

whenever I "plan" something like that, it NEVER is. HOwever, if I don't plan it - it seems to just happen. I've learned not to have expectations when it comes to sex b/c you never know what moods you both will be in when the time comes. Communication is the key, and when the time is right, it will be perfect.

I know what you mean, Spontaneous usually works better than a planned thing

Young, dont feel bad. I had friday night all planned out. We were going to go dancing, have dinner, and a nice night. Well the club totally sucked, no one was there. and I lost $3.00 on a pool tabel before they told me they took the balls out. They didnt refund my money. I didnt care bout the money, I wanted my wife and I to play. It snowballed from the beginning. So dont feel bad. Chin up and smile.

I have found most of the times we made love to be rather spontaneous. Like for example, i'll come up behind the wife downstairs and lay a deep, long passionate kiss on her while cupping a breat. Then i'll give her a look as i head upstairs. Then, if she follows, we take it from there. We planned in a few times. My christmas gift from her was coming home to the living room all lit with candles, wine and a blanket on the floor. You finish the rest lol

It can but both parties have to want it. Sounds like you're a passionate person and he isn't.

I love my dreams too....they are sexy, safe, and filled with love and fun...I have acted a few out....sure there was a few bumps in the road...but My ex a "COP" didn't mind the take-down I was giving him on his squad car....in the rain!!!

For me sex is a lot like life in general. The more expectations I have about something, the more likely I am to be disappointed.