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WTF!!! speechless.sad..and cross!

sunnyjax
sunnyjax
SO conversation ( after 2 hours of lovemaking) .goes thus.

Husband: .make me hard so I can enter you again...

Wife: I thought we were going to get up and have some breakfast.

Husband: but I want to make you feel nice

Wife: you have made me feel very nice already darling, I want to get up really

Husband: BUT I (emphasis on I ) want to. I will stop when it makes you sore

I feel ashamed to say I reluctantly complied because I didn't want the rest of the day to be horrible if I had insisted and refused., but today I feel ashamed of myself. I should have made my H listen to what I wanted, or didn't want.

Im just in shock that he thinks his feelings matter more than mine.
Rude awakening.
MrMG
MrMG
Wow, I am so sorry that your husband views you that way. I must admit that I behaved the same way when I was younger, much younger. Once my wife told me that she didn't like something I wised up. Have you explained to him how you feel? What YOU want? My wife used to just go with the flow too. Of course I was clueless as to how she really felt. Apparently she was under the impression that I could read minds. All of that changed when we got into counseling. I l learned to listen to her, I am still working on that one, and she learned to be more vocal with her feelings.

If he loves hopefully he will see what it is that he is doing to you.
sunnyjax
sunnyjax
oh yeh MrMG I have told himbut he just looks at me like Im talking another language! Completely baffled!

I should have been firmerI'm not comfortable with conflict. And had I insisted we get up he would have been a sod all day.

I know he isn't a mind reader but I had said No three times.!!!

but I feel I let myself down.
koolman
koolman
Ah, the fine art of give and take that is being married.

I would've continued the conversation with: "I don't need to be sore to feel satisfied."
MsViv
MsViv
it has nothing to do with being married - any one in any relationship could have said and done that.