Healthy Sex Support Group

This community is dedicated to an open discussion about healthy sex and sharing thoughts and feelings about sexuality and improving one's sex life. Most active adults desire to have an active and fulfilling sex life, both for themselves and also their partner. Here we discuss common sexual challenges faced by both men and women.

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RaeofLite 02/08/2009

Would you break up with someone if you were seeing them and they continuously didn't communicate, ask you preferences (and you vice versa) or meet your physical needs?

I admit I have. He didn't seem to care, or maybe it was lack of confidence, experience. But he also seemed to get off too easily and didn't reciprocate when it came to foreplay.

I feel a bit shallow saying this but it's true. I think people should be equal in a relationship, even physical aspects.

deleted_user 02/08/2009

Well, all I can say is that communication is the key. I have 20 years on my sweetie and I am still learning and so is she.A lot of women think that just her getting naked is enough...it isn't...my mind has to be stimulated...not just my body. In so many ways she is the same way.A lot of guys think a big cock is the only answer...it isn't...what is in your heart and mind is what counts and that goes for both girls and guys...just my opinion.

deleted_user 02/08/2009

I would. It would make me feel as if I was in a one sided relationship. communication is the key to any relationship. I look at a woman's physical appearance first before I decide if I want to talk to her. I have to be sexually attracted to her first.

deleted_user 02/08/2009

EQUALITY all the way--- it's the only way!

I agree.

flutterbyfly 02/08/2009

I agree 100%. I felt shallow at first saying that too - that I had to have someone on the same level as me sexually or it wouldn't work. But you know what I've learned? You know whats right for you in EVERY area of your life. And if someone isn't going to meet that, even in one area, then why bother?

If you're just looking to hook up, thats one thing. You can waiver a bit. But if you're looking for a great long term thing? not gonna happen if you don't communicate and/or are on the same page.

deleted_user 02/09/2009

Heather! Welcome back baby! How was your trip?

Anyway I totally agree with you....all three of thoes things are important in a relationship. It is not shallow one bit.

deleted_user 02/09/2009

Holy fuck..are you me...lol....sounds like we are living the same life...mwah.....

deleted_user 02/09/2009

Without a connection on a deep level its really hard to find that someone who completes our own ideals. i have dated ppl whom after a few dates i start to realize " yea your fun to hang out and drink with and even play around with " but when it comes to feeling a connection or a common bond YOUR FIRED !!!!! We all want someone who shares some of our ideas and dreams and hopes in life. Hell I know I do. Its hard to be me ALL ALONE .

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