That all depends on the person and if I'm sexually attracted to that person or not.

When I'm attracted to a person, there's not much he can do or say that doesn't turn me on. Something as simple as him walking in the room can be a huge sexual turn on to me if I'm attracted to him.

If I'm not attracted to the person, there's nothing he can do or say that will turn me on.

As for what my partner says and/or does that turns me on, way too many things to list.

OK, leather, so what kind of PERSON turns you on?

Listening to Irish music.....
Seeing a naked man
Thinking about a naked man
Being naked
Harrison Ford

Ah...Harry's Irish/Russian/Jewish, you know, Mary!

The kind of persona that turns me on is a man that is naturally Dominant, who is strong but not afraid to show his sensitive side, who is very strict but very kind, who is rough and sensual, who fully understands me, how I'm wired, what I need in a relationship (both non-sexually and sexually), who can and will meet my needs as I do his. Who fully loves and accepts all of me for who I am, as I accept and love all of him for who he is.

I think this quote I have under one of my pics on my photo page sums it up quite nicely. "I, with a deeper instinct, choose a man who compels my strength, who makes enormous demands on me, who does not doubt my courage or my toughness, who does not believe me naive or innocent, who has the courage to treat me like a woman." -- Anais Nin

With all that said, being in a relationship with the type of man I need in order to be in a relationship with him, just about everything about him, what he says, what he does is a turn on to me from the simplest thing like walking into the room or sitting on the sofa together watching a movie, a passionate kiss, watching him undress, calling me "his slut", watching him cook dinner, to something sexually extreme that will send me into subspace.

I've been very fortunate that I found the type of man that does it for me twice in my life. My partner/Dom that I am with now and have been with for the past 8 years and my former husband/Dom who I was with for 27 years.

Physically speaking, it depends much more on his personality than on his looks. If his personality doesn't turn me on, his looks won't do a damn thing for me but I will say, decent shape (no 6 pack abs kind of guy though), gray hair is a plus and a beard/mustache is a huge plus.

Watched Harrison Ford in Air Force One today. Exhausted!!!

That's right, leather--he's a dom, you're a sub. Yeah, it seems to me opposite types of personalities seem to attract really well, because one has what the other lacks and vice versa. So any height thing? You seem to be a pretty tall woman, so I can't imagine short, fat and bald would do it for ya. You wouldn't find such a man dominating. Your man is probably of equal height to you or maybe a little taller, right? Does he look like Sam Elliott?

It's been my experience that two dominating personalities butt heads, clash, and not in a good, sexual way, and in two subs, nothing happens. Flexibility, willingness to be sometimes dominant, sometimes submissive seems to me the only way two doms or two subs would work, but people shouldn't deny their true nature.

I can be pretty dominating, but I recognize in the world of sex, I lack experience some possess, so I'm willing to relax, submit and let a more experienced woman take over the reins and dominate the shit out of me, as long as she lets me aggressively man-handle her sometimes too.

I would say I'm average height for a women at 5'5", my partner is 5'11. He has gray hair, beard and mustache but no, he doesn't look like Sam Elliot. Mmmmmm.......a 3some with Sam Elliot and Cher would be a fantasy come true. Ok, back on subject. ;)

As I said before, being a dominant has nothing to do with looks, height or any of that. I would certainly find a short, bald, heavy man to be dominant "if" he was a dominant. I know Doms and subs of all ages, heights, weight within the bdsm community.

I know Dom/Dom couples and I know sub/sub couples within the community and it works out well for them. There are Doms that enjoy bottoming but that doesn't make that Dom a sub the same as a sub who enjoys topping doesn't make that person a Dom.

There are times I top but I'm not a Dom, there are times my partner bottoms but he's not a sub.

Anyway, for me what turns me on is about what happens within the whole relationship, not just what goes on sexually, it's the whole package, it's who he is in and out of the bedroom. We're not just a bedroom D/s couple, we're a 24/7 D/s couple. We don't role play Dom and sub (nothing wrong with folks who do role play) but for us, it's who we are, how we're wired, how we've always been and what we each need in a partner to be happy and content within a relationship.

Mary Contrary, I agree that Irish music is a turn-on. For years I couldn't listen to an Irish tenor at a Pub doing DANNY BOY without tears rolling down my face!

leather: Interesting. I knew your man was taller than you tho lol. Agree, it's about feeling free and open to be our true selves without fear of rejection or criticism, with our SO complimenting us as we compliment them. Congrats on that enduring relationship!

I don't really need any help being my true self, but it would be nice, flattering and empowering to have a little "encouragement" to be the man I am from a woman. Then I'd feel as though I'm living to my full potential. And I don't want to usurp any of HER personal power either, but rather compliment it, with my inner demon making her feel like the sexiest vixen on the planet whilst also being very warm and loving.

Other ladies: Are those Irish bagpipes I hear playing?

Sam Elliott.. Yes, Yes Yes.. Anytime, anywhere. His voice alone is a turn on. Matthew McConaughey, too, who I think somewhat resembles a young Paul Newman - does anyone else see that?

I can see some resemblance Viv. Paul Newman I think became better looking as he started to age, same with Sam Elliott. Elliott in Mask and Road House, Mmmmmm. His voice alone is damn HOT! The only TV ad I ever paid attention to was the Dodge Ram Truck ads because of his voice.

http://grownasslady.com/wp-content/uploads/2014/01/sam-elliott-moustache.jpg

Oh yeah, I'd ride his mustache any time. :)

Paul Newman: How about Robert Redford? He's of Irish descent, probably hasn't aged as well as Newman did, but man--he was a looker, a real head-turner, quite a handsome man in the '60s and '70s! Of German/Irish descent myself, but a bit more goofy-looking, I was so jealous of Redford's perfectly chiseled jaw and that winning smile.

Nah, Robert Redford not my idea of good looking. Too clean-cut and babyfaced looking for my taste in his young years and he did not grow old gracefully with getting better looking with age.