Healthy Sex Support Group

This community is dedicated to an open discussion about healthy sex and sharing thoughts and feelings about sexuality and improving one's sex life. Most active adults desire to have an active and fulfilling sex life, both for themselves and also their partner. Here we discuss common sexual challenges faced by both men and women.

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What's Your Definition?

koolman
koolman
Of Healthy Sex? Here's mine:

Clean, disease-free sex that is mutually satisfying to both, that has an undercurrent of warmth, so there's no anxiety, complete acceptance, appreciation and encouragement, education and continual learning about what makes each other tick, so that coming together is a spiritually strengthening, exciting and enriching experience.

But everyone's definition is sure to be different. Yours?
deleted_user
deleted_user
Sex that doesn't leave you with an emotional hang over or head ache. Healthy sex comes from a clear mind.
koolman
koolman
Indeed! My grandfather always used to say "love is blind, but you better go into it with both eyes open". In other words, try to see the big picture. How does this person fit into my WHOLE LIFE???
deleted_user
deleted_user
Absolutely. And know the expectations before you start. It will save you from a lot of grief and stress later.
koolman
koolman
Indeed. When we're looking at the other person, as well as ourselves, what do we see? What do we WANT to see? Do we want a spouse or a whore/stud? Or differing variations of either, depending on our mood? Then the task becomes how much time do we allot to sex and how much time do we allot to thinking about this person in a domestic capacity?
deleted_user
deleted_user
Sex. That's my definition. If the sex you had met the criteria you had laid out for that sex, then it must have been healthy.
If I had a one night stand with an attractive young lady and it met or surpassed my criteria for it, then it was healthy.
The disease free kind goes without saying.
The definition does get different for long term relationships, and requires an adventurous spirit, generosity, fun, affection, trust, surprises and lots of snuggling and kissing and openness.