And what makes you think that?

I have a 10 years experience with a loveless relationship... I deeply feel for you, dear Depressed Recluse.

For me the worst was the state after you realize where you are, and stop fighting to make work what can't ever possibly work, and you want to leave, but you're not able to leave, just because of different circumstances, small children, no place to go, no job... And at the same time I was having a long distance love relationship, with the person I used to know and be in love with before marriage... And all this going on for 2 years...

But slowly things straighten up... you grow up realizing different things in life, maybe become a little wiser...

Maybe all I'm writing doesn't help, sorry...

Anyway, just wanted to support...

i am sorry you feel this way and are going thru this. what makes you think he doesnt love you though? do you love him?

same question. why do you think he doesnt love you? does he say it? does he cheat on you? do you love him? if you dont love eachother why are you still in the relationship? it sounds like you would rather be with your ex....?

thanks for the replies, guys...it's actually a loonggg story...but I will try to keep it short...

I love my husband deeply, and I'm determined not to fail at another relationship...but...the truth is that it gets harder and harder as each day goes by...

I still have desires for my husband...but they haven't been satisfied in well over a year...I miss that very much...but I also miss my best friend, the person I could talk to about anything...the person who could encourage me...and had faith in my ability when I didn't have that faith in myself...I now have that faith in myself...but sometimes it gets overwhelming and he's not there to support and encourage me...he doesn't do anything with me...and doesn't even try...I don't even remember the last time he told me I Love You...I don't remember the last time he kissed me...we don't talk unless it's to argue or something really serious is going on in his life (like his brother recently passed away - of course we discussed that, but only if I asked him or brought it up) ...the day I posted this, I practically BEGGED him to walk down to the corner store with me to get a Coke, and he just flat out refused because he had just started to play his game...that's all he does...watch TV, watch movies, and play his games...GOD!...I neglected every aspect of my life when we first started dating...and we built what i thought was a good relationship...but now, there is nothing there...i love him, I miss him, and I want him...I don't need him...but I want him...I love him and honestly can't picture my life without him, but not like this...I want that dream life that WE used to talk about...and it doesn't take a lot to have...it just takes time and his wanting to work at it...but he doesn't so the only thing that I can conclude is that he doesn't love me.

well...there it is in a nutshell :)...I just don't know what to do anymore...I'm tired of crying myself to sleep every single night...

Depressed Recluse...

Tell him everything you wrote here, tell him you're not happy with things how they are. Ask him if he still loves you but not only loves you, ask him if he still has passion and desire for you. Also ask him if he wants the relationship to work and if he does then tell him the two of you have to start working together to make it work. Let him know how it is now is not working for you.

Do you do the things he doesn't do, do you tell him you love him, do you kiss him, do you initiate intimacy, do you start conversations with him? If so, what does he do or say when you do these things?