Hi R! I would ask your doctor to test your Testosterone level. As men age a little their Testosterone level can go down. If that is the problem the doctor can give you some hormone cream/liquid to apply to your skin. I think you put it under your arm but I am not sure. It is a common thing that can be treated. Lowered Testosterone can cause other things too like mood and tiredness. Please get it checked out.

Good luck!

Thanks Lisa, T is fine, it was low but I have treated and gained to an acceptable efficient level.

If you are able to climax on your own it might be that you really like this woman and you are worrying too much about your performance. If I were you I would see a doctor just in case.

My friend just recently went through this too..he is about the same age. He did go see his Dr and it was related to an oversized prostate putting pressure..not sure on the actual cause but he was on medication for a little bit to clear the infection or something and it helped!! I know some of my information could be completely wrong..but that is all I can remember! Just make an appt :)

TA, good on ya mate!

Here's what I'd say: I see two possible reasons. First, it could be that you've self-satisfied for so long now that the new sensation of being with a woman again feels foreign to you. In particular,I think your member needs to get reprogrammed to her feel. The second (and I'd swear by this) is to do everything against what you're trying to do with your Johnson while you're in the sack. In other words, don't focus all your attention on your erection and trying to come. You know how you can tense up your penis muscles or blood flow or your duct work in hopes of directing all your energy and feelings to that one area so that you'll almost force yourself to come? Well don't do that. Instead completely relax in that area. Focus on it, but focus on releasing all tension and just feel the feeling. it's as if you have to constantly focus on not being tense and letting go.

Geez,, I'll have to go back and read this as I'm on my phone and it probably made no sense.

I am not a guy but I think that is good advice Okie!

Thank you all
been cutting back on the self gratification for awhile now. Do think the mind is overloading the function a bit. Still, very frustrating to be enjoying long term staying power without a trip to the finish line. Probably penance for my early sex life.

I would also suggest the Prostrate check. Sparkles is giving you sound advice and so is Okie !

Lisa may be on to something too so while your at the Dr have them check everything out. :)

Best of Luck buddy.

if you have desire and your dingy grows hard it shouldn't be testosterone defifincy.

do you take meds for other things
alot of doc prescribed meds can prevent orgasm.

pain killers is 1 thing that prevents my orgasms.
some pills for nerves can shut the shooter down too,
meanin no orgasms
if you're on meds like that it can be a problem.
try not to take those meds for about 5 hrs before sex,
that may help.
docs and pharmacys never warn u of delayed or no 'O'
bc there's alot of minute men who would take the meds for that purpose.
all they need to do if you're a quicky train your dicky
to shoot on your command.
it's not hard to do it just takes time.
yes you have to be hard to train it,lol

Just go slow and relax and talk to each other and it will happen maybe you need her to try something different and nothing wrong with asking i do with hubby and he will do anything to make me have the big O Lisa

I ditto Cowboy about if its growing and you are in the mood, then it's not a testosterone problem.

try relaxing see if that works.. see if it works when you are alone too.
You know, you may not be that into her.. um, play on words, but you may just not like her that much.. Or, are you using condoms with her? Maybe that is giving you a weird sensation...

I've got nothing else...If all else fails, talk to Dr.....

Again, I thank you all for your replies and am happy to say, there have been many celebratory loads fired since the original post. Lol, turns out, things just took a little time. ;+)

Oh, sorry tossed. I didn't realize that this was an older post that was brought to life.