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What Is Causing This?

sunshine917
sunshine917
I have only had two sexual partners in my lifetime. I got tested for STI's after my first sexual partner and I broke up, even though we used condoms every time we had sex. Everything came back negative.
My second sexual partner is my current boyfriend. We have been together for one year and three months. He has been paralyzed from the nipple line down for ten years (because of a car accident) He can get an erection, but it is hard to maintain no matter how turned on he is. And he cannot ejaculate. He had sex literally one time right before he became paralyzed, but he wore a condom. And since then, he has only had sex with me.
He has been getting pimples on his fingers. He noticed that it happens after he fingers me. They don't hurt, and they don't itch. Nothing oozes out of them. And they go away after a few days. They aren't bothering him, but I'm really curious as to what could be going on and whether I should be concerned.
I am 99% sure neither one of us has an STI. But I don't know what else it could be. His theory is that my vaginal ph is too acidic. I don't know if that would cause this to happen or not.
Does anyone have any idea what might be going on?
Any opinions would be greatly appreciated.
freakchick3175
freakchick3175
well i havent ever really heard of something like this, but you may want to get tested for herpes. herpes is very common . if you have ever had cold sores, as a child or adult, then you have the herpes virus. but it usually only out breaks 4 times a year and that would be the only time its contagious. or have him see a dermatologist when he has the bumps on his fingers, they can probably identify them better .
MsViv
MsViv
If they come and go, it sounds like it might be some sort of an allergic reaction to something. - Possibly you, possibly a lotion you use or a detergent.
I agree with freakchick - have a dermatologist do a test on the bumps. Make a list of all items you use for washing your body and your clothing. give that to the dermatologist too.

In the meantime, have him wear latex free gloves.
sunshine917
sunshine917
Thank you for your responses. I do not remember ever having a cold sore, but I could have forgotten. Hopefully, there is nothing serious is going on.
racinggirl
racinggirl
I was gonna say the same thing as misviv. Sounds like an allergy. Does he have cuts on his fingers or rough cuticles? Those white "pimples" are usually a sign your body is trying to fight infection. An allergen introduced to the body is attacked by huge amounts of white blood cells to try to fight it off. Sometimes this makes a pimple. It could be something he's eating. The pimples show up in random spots. This is how I react to iodine. Whether its eaten or applied to my skin. (However mine is always on my nose & chin). For years I just thought I had acne, even though no medicine or treatment helped. I correlated it to iodine... Tested my theory, & when I cut it out, my skin is clear. When I have it again, I breakout within a day or so. Hope this helps.