Well, it is funny you say that. I just had a very stern conversation with my 15 year old about I, I, I, me me me me. I told her that boys don't like it. First of all one sounds selfish and narcissistic and rude. Secondly, in the world of work there is no "I" in team.

With adult women, it makes me nuts...yuck!

I'VE BEEN TELLING MY SON THAT HE'S NOT ALLOWED TO SAY THE "W" WORD WHICH IS "WANT" EVER.


I ALWAYS SAY "I" WHICH I KNOW MAKES ME A SELFISH AND SELF-CENTERED PERSON, BUT I JUST HAVEN'T FOUND A WAY TO HELP MYSELF.

ALL I CAN TALK ABOUT IS THINGS I'VE GONE THROUGH. HOW AM I TO KNOW WHAT YOU HAVE GONE THROUGH, UNLESS YOU TELL ME.

A better, more professional word to use is "one". "One could do this in this instance."

Yes, when you're expressing how you feel, you need to use the "I" word. But it's SOOO important to educate young people and tell them "the world does not revolve around YOU". Get out there and work, ya lazy bastards. You'll learn really quick how insignificant you are.

Ok, let's talk about other things-politics, life, philosophy, let's play with statistics a little bit, just because we can-most men don't want a woman that is educated and articulate-and that forces too many women into the I talk. She is letting you know she is a damsel in distress and wants you to come rescue her. Not to categorize men and women-but if you look there are a whole different group of us out there.

I think AloneinUtah might be on to something there, but I don't know the situation so I can't really comment. Are you saying you've been on a bad date, Koolman?

when someone uses the "I" word too much, it's a complete turn off...especially when "we" are left to sit and look at you while some men coninually use it!
and as for the "one could"~~~ sheesh....that's enough to make me want to stomp my heels into "one's" foot. Usually when someone is using the word "one" it means YOU could do blah blah blah...and if theres anything I dislike more then being told what I 'should' do....

Koolman, if one were talking with a celebrity porn starlet,a.k.a. back stabber, one might expect to hear the "I" used a great deal of time. j/k this "one" me, I see valid points from all that have posted. Kudos to LouD1 and Gzus for their parenting strategies, to AIU for reminding us the sea is vast and full. Way to go KIT, hate being conned into doing what some"one" else thinks I should

It depends on the situation I suppose. I learned a very valuable trick about arguing in a co-parenting class for bio/step parents.

That trick is, when arguing, it is much LESS offensive if you use the word "i" instead of "you"

Example: "I would prefer it if the children were fed before I come to pick them up" is generally taken in better context than: "You should feed your kids before i get here"

I have learned that "I" is a great tool for making my point, in any case, regardless of who I'm debating with.

how about when they say "I dont get this" or "I dont get that".....

"I" don't get THIS! "I" don't understand what THAT has to do with "ones" ability to get THAT which has THIS ones "I".

Hmmm some folks were never learned the proper ways of things so they are destined to be vast bores in every persons life they touch. The one that gets my goat is third person talks - very interesting hehehehe Backstabbing porno star!

OK, let me re-phrase: The "I" word isn't as objectionable to "I WANT", which several women I've met recently blab constantly. It's like a 25-year-old child trying to make the world their oyster, through brute force rather than applied intellect.

And, yes, let's say I've had a bad date or two lately...

And, yes, it's a sign of being uneducated. Now, saying "I feel that this or that should be" is a much kinder and more intelligent phrase.

And, yes, some men blab about themselves incessantly too. It's like saying "look at ME! It's all about ME!" while US goes out the window, and they wonder why their date doesn't return their phone calls.

AloneinUtah (sorry to hear that): You especially hit on a really good point there.

Yer hangin out with the WRONG kind of women then Kool, not all chicks are "me" oriented

The whole "I Want" depends on the context, as well as the reactions by members of the opposite sex, as pointed by AIU,

I'm not really a big talker, so I kinda like it when a woman yaps a lot. If all I have to do is nod once in a while and maintain eye contact, it leaves less time for me to say something rude, creepy, or weird.

I'm the classic "good listener", even though while I'm "listening", I'm usually mentally undressing the barmaids.

only barmaids ?...no one else ?

Sounds good, attletico.

DayKart: I do prefer women who talk a lot...because I sometimes don't have a fucking clue what to say...they set the tone and I interject where I feel it might elicit a funny or warm response from them...

A self-effacing sense of humor is what I find disarmingly wonderful, someone who can actually make fun of herself!