Healthy Sex Support Group

This community is dedicated to an open discussion about healthy sex and sharing thoughts and feelings about sexuality and improving one's sex life. Most active adults desire to have an active and fulfilling sex life, both for themselves and also their partner. Here we discuss common sexual challenges faced by both men and women.

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GiveMeWings 12/02/2007

So we have all heard the, "If you sleep with a man too soon he will think you are a loose, and if you make him wait too long he will think you are a tease." Do men really judge women if we sleep/don't sleep with you 'too soon'? I thought not, but I am learning different. And, if we do sleep with you lickedy-split, how do we fare - do you seriously rethink pursuing a long term, meaningful relationship because of this? In all honesty, what may be too soon for me is not for him and vice versa, now what? Whatever happened to going with what feels right?

cowboy357 12/02/2007

naw hell no I never thought anything of the sort of course I heard kids talk like that ,lol

cowboy357 12/02/2007

go with what feels right , you can still do that

deleted_user 12/02/2007

go with the flow.i dont judge by that.if there is a connection there it will be there from the start.if you end up in bed there was something there already be it lust or love

CarlaBentley 12/02/2007

I disagree that guys are jag-offs as a general rule, although God knows that plenty of men and women could be a Hell of a lot better than they are!!
If I were dating, as soon as I found out that a guy thought either or both of those things, I'd be through with him anyway.
Life's too short to waste on inferior quality men!!!

GiveMeWings 12/02/2007

Exactly! What's with all these limits and rules these days... I dont remember it being this way before I was married... things are different now I guess?

CarlaBentley 12/02/2007

Giggle!!!! And here *I* was thinking that it's a shame that things haven't changed more since I was young! LOLOL!!!!!
That's the same crap that I came across when I was dating 35 years ago!!!!!!
Maybe it runs in cycles!!!! LOLOL!!!

deleted_user 12/02/2007

I saw go with the flow, if you dont feel comfortable with him then dont screw him. If you are all into him and want to do it then by all means go for it.

It has always been like the 3rd date with most of the gals I have dated, but one took a month and it made me feel uncomfortable.

It kinda made me feel like she was just using me for a free dinner and a date.

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