You need to take it slow. YOu have a lot of healing to do.

I just feel bad because I am still married to my soon to be ex, and even though it is over some think that I am an adulterer. Both of us want to take it slow. He is still a virgin and I don't want to make him feel like he has to have sex with me for me to care for him. I want him to feel comfortable around me. My soon to be ex is 14 years older than me and this new guy is 2 years younger. I think it is so cute when he gets around me I can feel his heart raceing, and its kinda like he doesn't know what to do or say. I don't know I think a younger guy would be kinda fun.

Take it VERY slow. You have been through a lot. If you feel anything for the new guide, let your heart AND your mind guide you. You need to heal.

If it feels right i would go out with him, i would take it slow, get to know each other, maybe have lunch together or go out for a casual date...dont put any pressure on yourself or on him...give it time and see what happens....good luck!

I think you should go out with him and take it slow. You'll know after a few dates if you have any connection together. One step at a time is good. I'm glad to see you progressing on the subject. Good luck to you. Hugs, Oli

well charity... on this website there is an physical and emotional abuse board... i think it might be a good idea for you to go there and pick their brains...

Well, you're already living apart and in the process of getting a divorce, and you're being honest with this new guy, I can't see any problem.
And at the moment it's only a date, no pressure to actually do anything sexual - you might decide on that when the time's right, or maybe you'll get to be friends instead - either way you haven't lost anything :)

Process of getting a divorce meaning...papers were filed already?

I don't think you would be a considered slut/whore but in the eyes of many you could be considered an adulterer.

For me though, I met my bf while I was still unhappily married. We became friends and confidantes. We did not sleep together until the divorce was finalized though.

I would suggest...because you are still legally married, although you have been over him a long time ago, take it slow. Get to know this guy first before jumping in another relationship.

I agree with everyone else.Take it slow,take your time and dont rush into anything.

We are takeing it slow and like I said before I am not going to sleep with him. He gets nervis enough around me when we are in class together.

I dont think anything is wrong with you going out with him.That doesnt make you a slut or a whore and you are not doing anything wrong.

go out with the new guy , just becareful you are not falling into the same type of guy, many abused people follow a pattern like that , not always intentaly, but yes if he's a good guy , go for him , you have my blessings , a slut most people would say is someone who goes for many men at one time

Thanks for yalls advice I really appreciate it. I know this sounds really childish but yesterday (after the football game) we were at the band hall and I gave him a hug and he leaned over and kissed me. I was all like awwww. I came out of a depression cycle after that and felt so happy; I know that is something very minor but it ment the world to me.

the little things can mean alot. my wife and I have always shown love to eachother. it means so much more than saying I love you. glad to hear you are happy with him

You are young, leave the husband and do what makes YOU happy. Date, nothing serious to start and see where it does. Just be safe, husband sounds unstable. You are not a slut or whore, your husband may call you those names out of anger, but pay him no mind!