Healthy Sex Support Group
This community is dedicated to an open discussion about healthy sex and sharing thoughts and feelings about sexuality and improving one's sex life. Most active adults desire to have an active and fulfilling sex life, both for themselves and also their partner. Here we discuss common sexual challenges faced by both men and women.
Passed on some terrific girls in my twenties who were interested in having sex with me while we were in college...the reasoning was I was living with my parents and didn't have a pot to piss in financially...then, in my thirties, I was working very hard, and the reasoning was my job and making money was the priority...now in my forties, I seem to have time and money, and I'm in a strange place about attempting to seduce women for sex...I'm in great physical shape, not too old, libido is just fine and hope I don't look completely ugly...but it's like my mind is not into it. Maybe I want to think of her as more than a whore, maybe I'm scared to death she'll get pregnant and, while I'm supporting me, I don't make enough dough to support three...maybe I haven't met "the right" woman (have young twenty-somethings coming onto me occasionally, and it feels a little weird) dunno...it's a weird time...what do I actually want in/from a woman? Of course I find the youngers visually attractive, but mentally, we're not in the same place...feel myself having to "regress" mentally to get back down deep into that dark, primordial, animal place...maybe I'm simply not "bored" enough and settled enough in life...give me a place where I can sink roots and get good and bored...the lust toward the females around me will emerge...
Any 40-something folks going through the same thing?
Any 40-something folks going through the same thing?
1) you just simply try to hard. You have to let things happen naturally, and it is VERY rare that you find love when you ARE looking for it. It's when you stop looking that it finds you.
2) you put entirely too much emphasis on outward appearance. You just never know if maybe that kindred soul that you are looking for could be standing right in front of you, but you don't notice her because she's a plus sized girl.
3) Sometimes your way with words can be taken as quite offensive to the female species. I would suggest trying to be a little gentler with your way of wording things.
I'm not a 40 something, but these are just a few of the things I've observed.
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Laughter,relaxation and sex are all good qualities.
Are you looking to settle down kool?Or just know that you have someone when you need/want them?
I suppose, given the right woman (who has her own career and activities outside of US) who likes to get together to cuddle and have sex with me 3 times a week would be perfect.
Not sure if I'm ready for cohabitation, seeing the same person day-in and day-out walking in through the door...maybe if we really enjoy each other on every level...
I'm with a woman who only likes to hang out once a week, and she's great! Except for the fact that she only likes to kiss and make out...isn't into getting naked with me. Maybe it's me, maybe it's her...maybe it's the two of us together...otherwise, she's perfect, perfect, perfect for me, as I think I am for her! We get along very well. I comfort her when she's stressed, we make each other laugh, she's delighted to have a man in her life who finds her sexy and attractive, I'm delighted with my once-a-week squeeze LOL...