Healthy Sex Support Group
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I am a fairly healthy, very sexual woman.. I love the thrill I get when my husband and I make love. I have always been faithful to him and we have 3 kids.. it makes getting sex harder but they visit grandparents twice a week for about 3 or 4 hours so.. we can fit it in.
(Sorry if TMI.. but..)
Problem is.. he cant stay hard.. hes overweight but not extremely.. hes got a beer gut.. I never minded it really.. but hes also diabetic and bi-polar.. all of which seem to combine and create the scenario where he gets tired from sex now in only 5 or less minuets.. even if I REALLY get him stoked and ready with foreplay (blowjobs etc).
He really cant do missionary with me and even if I take the top position.. ..he just deflates..
It makes me feel awful.. he insists I feel good and that I am attractive to him, and insists its his body because of his health issues. How can I deal with this because really I just feel rejected and unable to please my guy which makes me depressed.. so depressed.
(Sorry if TMI.. but..)
Problem is.. he cant stay hard.. hes overweight but not extremely.. hes got a beer gut.. I never minded it really.. but hes also diabetic and bi-polar.. all of which seem to combine and create the scenario where he gets tired from sex now in only 5 or less minuets.. even if I REALLY get him stoked and ready with foreplay (blowjobs etc).
He really cant do missionary with me and even if I take the top position.. ..he just deflates..
It makes me feel awful.. he insists I feel good and that I am attractive to him, and insists its his body because of his health issues. How can I deal with this because really I just feel rejected and unable to please my guy which makes me depressed.. so depressed.
go completely vegitarian and follow a strict diet and that might help! I saw a show where people went Vega, and they lost weight and got rid of OR took less of their meds... There is hope and beleive me.
You can work through this if both parties work together.
It sounds like working off the beer gut would help tremendously, and drinking water and juice instead of beer-! I too find myself disgusting when I have a beer gut, and sex is the last thing on my mind.
Can he handle some light cardio exercise and cut out the beer?
If he could loose some weight and get the diabetes under control that would be the first step. I know that also with the BP meds they don't help with weight loss.
I totally understand the whole being self conscience about it, but it truly has nothing to do with you, but they are truly his issues. It is easier said than done. (((HUGS))))