Healthy Sex Support Group
This community is dedicated to an open discussion about healthy sex and sharing thoughts and feelings about sexuality and improving one's sex life. Most active adults desire to have an active and fulfilling sex life, both for themselves and also their partner. Here we discuss common sexual challenges faced by both men and women.
In a first-time partner, my feeling is that the enticement involves asking very suggestive questions and then listening for the desired responses, getting in touch with another's thoughts, feelings, desires and fantasies, then initiating words that drive the fantasy forward to a point deemed desirable by both partners, initiating a scenario, a place and a time to make the fantasy a reality.
Once there, being welcoming and creating a diffuse environment of complete comfort, relaxation and trust, without judgment, without limits, where anything goes...slowly, silkily, passionately initiating things...
Of course, monogamous or married life involves finding the time and the place to get down to that deep point of relaxation where you can fall in lust all over again every time...
How do you all initiate sex?
Once there, being welcoming and creating a diffuse environment of complete comfort, relaxation and trust, without judgment, without limits, where anything goes...slowly, silkily, passionately initiating things...
Of course, monogamous or married life involves finding the time and the place to get down to that deep point of relaxation where you can fall in lust all over again every time...
How do you all initiate sex?
steph: Whatever works for ya, pal. Are ya in a relationship where you've already passed the romantic courtship phase? How do you "preheat the oven" before the "wham bam"?
Sorry to say this, but if a guy seems to be talking too 'deep and serious' before we've even got to the bedroom, I'm just going to assume he's a pick-up artist ("talk about soulmates, and forming a deep spiritual connection with someone - chicks always go crazy for that".)
Apart from that, really I'm just going to look for a guy who seems to be 'normal', i.e. human, and not too smooth and polished about the whole seduction business - it's about finding out what makes the other person different and unique, I suppose.
As the relationship grows, I want to feel comfortable doing or asking for whatever I want and I want him to do the same. Yep, I've even been turned on by the twinkle in an eye and the pharse, do you want to . . . .
When I make the 1st move (which 94% of the time), I rub her slowly and sweetly and work my way as soon as I can to her breasts. Then I kiss her breasts and I'm only a couple of steps away from sex.