urs riting are way 2 smarts for me.

Awe. Cmon Dave, I'm purty dern shur an injunear is a lot smarter than an old redneck like me.

dave,you're funny

tossed,yea that wasn't easy to follow but if you mean...is someone covering an inadequecy by bragging up their expertise in kitty licking? i would say...probably. Did you just say that even though you enjoy recieving, there is no result from it ? as in...you don't climax from that ?

Like someone who is only good at lickin the kitty and nothing else?

@ montaname, exactly, never have climaxed, had the big O, from getting head.

@ ooReboo, Yea, I feel extra confident in giving, but sometimes inadequate in other aspects. Combine that with an ex who was not always receptive to oral, and maybe that's my dilemma. Idk

Not in my experience with stbxh or my partner. Yes, oral satisfaction ranks high on my priority list but so does a lot of other sexual things. I think it's safe to say most of the things I love doing are high on my priority list and are equal in rank. So although I've always been very satisfied orally, I and they have been very satisfied with other sex acts also. That doesn't necessarily mean he or I get off with ever sex act that we do but they're still very pleasurable, satisfying and high on the priority list.

I wouldn't say not being able to get off from oral (or any specific sex act) is an inadequacy at all. As long as it's enjoyed and pleasurable by both partners, that's all that matters in my book.

No, I was meaning that someone who talks about it all the time how good they are at "it" and then they are fantastic, but then are not good at being in a relationship.

i misunderstood the question...sorry.

ok tossed, I get that, I just wasn't sure that i read that right. So...does that bother you or are you ok with that ? Seems fine to me and i would hope that you were enjoying it all the same,cum or not.

My ex never came while I was giving him oral, yet he requested it often so I don't think that was an issue of whether he enjoyed it or not. I like to think it was that he respected that I didn't necessarily want him to do that in my mouth and having to swallow or spit. He was a little OCD, so he probably thought it was gross, knowing him!

He wasn't that great at oral, but was pretty good with other things.

My girlfriend did tell me that men who brag about it are usually not good at doing anything else.

I just don't think bragging at all is a very good idea. Those who can, just do.

I see your point Tossed. I have good days and bad days with other things, but I am pretty good at orally satisfying my partner (or at least she says I am). That is all that really matters to me. I base my skills on what i am told and what I experiance. ;)

I have been with women that can make me climax in a few minutes and others that have never been able to through oral.

I have also made some women orgasam many times through oral and yet others that never did. I think it is really based on a individual basis and has less to do with skills. Its more of a compatibility area over skills set.Some people are not in tune with themselves or have hang-ups that cause bad sex.

I was with this one girl that I could only make her O with really hard and vigorouse clit stimulation. Oral didnt work ( I mean my jaw had to be put in traction). Penitration didnt work ( we did it so long I could even feel my leggs anymore). It was like nothing I tried work and talkk about being disapointed. Finnaly bitting the nipples and rubbing blisters into my fingers WORKED> :) Thats just the way she was and told me afterwards. She truelly was a hard nut to crack. LOL

i would say that hubs rarely actually orgasms from JUST oral. it usually has to be a combination of hand and mouth. but he still LOVES oral. i think i am pretty good at it. i have never had any complaints or anything. lol.

as far as how it goes for me? i have only had 2 people in my life be able to get me off orally. actually, most people have just plain been terrible. if my husband and i split, i dont know if i would ever bother letting anyone do it again. its annoying trying to teach people.

If I was with a man that was good at licking the kitty then I would expect him to bring to orgasm that way. I don't think it should hinder the whole sexual experience. Maybe toys or other items could be introduced to elicit the same effect vaginally without a tongue.

Personally, I prefer oral sex as the warm-up but not the finish. I think if a man could not bring me to climax through vaginal penetration I might be put off. However, you never know what will happen with aging. A future partner might not be able to perform that way and it shouldn't hinder the relationship. I would still want comfort and companionship in my old age if my partner was unable to perform.

If you don't eat your meat, you can't have any pudding.
Do you only serve one thing on your plate?
Don't you start with ouer d'oeuvres? Oil rubs and massage, cuddling, finger strokes, tongue on flesh, exquisite flesh.
The main course begins with the tongue, seeking, probing, pushing, licking, a delicate tease, the juices flowing. Only when the taste buds are about to burst should the other items on the plate be sampled. Entry, different positions, changes in tempo and depth - shy humming bird, wild stallion - on the back, on top, side, back.
Then I hope you saved some room for dessert.
Oral is part of the meal, not the meal itself.

I like what strattod is serving. When's dinner?