Healthy Sex Support Group
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A little over a month ago, I found out that my hubby is bisexual (I say find out because he never told me, and I found out because he was sexting men).
Although we've kind of worked past that, I know that he is curious. So a couple days ago, I made a comment of "I wonder what it would be like to be a guy and thrust you". At the time, he kind of laughed and shrugged it off. But today he came out and asked me if I would if I would get some toys and do it. Call me crazy, but I am pretty adventurous in bed.
I guess my question is, whats the best way to go about doing it? Any women do this for their man, or anyone just have experience with toys that might be good for this kind of situation?
Although we've kind of worked past that, I know that he is curious. So a couple days ago, I made a comment of "I wonder what it would be like to be a guy and thrust you". At the time, he kind of laughed and shrugged it off. But today he came out and asked me if I would if I would get some toys and do it. Call me crazy, but I am pretty adventurous in bed.
I guess my question is, whats the best way to go about doing it? Any women do this for their man, or anyone just have experience with toys that might be good for this kind of situation?
Just a FYI.....anal penetration done to a man isn't for bi or gay men only, many straight men enjoy anal penetration done to them. A lot of feel good sensations are there, same as with women who enjoy anal sex plus men have the prostate gland there which adds to their enjoyment for men who like it.
Anyway, there are all kinds of toys made for anal penetration, butt plugs, all kinds of anal dildos and vibes, strap-on harnesses, etc. Yes I've done it with different type toys and with strap-ons. The best way of going about it is like trying anything else new, experiment with it and find what works well for both of you. If you try a strap-on harness, one that sits low so you get some clit stimulation works great. You can also use the feeldoe with a harness so you can get vaginal penetration at the same time. I've tried a few different harnesses and The Jaguar I found I like best. More expensive than others but much better than the cheaper ones IMO. http://www.aslanleather.com/jaguar
He has labelled himself as bisexual. He has admitted to trying with another male, but not getting past initiation because it "didn't feel right".
Truthfully, I am terrified that I won't be able to help his curiosity. Nothing against his sexuality, but I am not willing to share... So if this is what he wants to try, then I am going to try.
a man finding other guy attractive is another ballgame...
With that said, there are many bisexual people living a monogamous, heterosexual life who are completely happy and satisfied in their relationship and in their sex life, they don't have the need to swing both ways and they don't feel like they're suppressing any part of who they are or missing out on anything.
You doing him and maybe him fantasizing about a man could very well be enough for him to satisfy his desire. You'll both have to keep communication open and honest about it.