I wouldn't say it's unusual to enjoy gentle, playful spanking. It wouldn't do anything for me, I enjoy stinging slaps on the ass but not bent over his knee kind of spanking. I like it during sex in doggie position, especially during anal sex or laying on my belly, him giving me a massage or teasing me with toys and giving some good whacks either with his hand or a riding crop but not knowing when to expect them.

During D/s, he wouldn't slap my ass as a punishment because I enjoy it. Punishment is also only used if I'm being a brat and not doing what I'm told to do or I don't do it quick enough.

By gentle I mean something that's not going to bruise you... not something you can't feel xD

Whatever you enjoy, go for it. Whether some people might think it's unusual or not doesn't matter. The only thing that matters is what you like and everything being consensual.

There are times I'm left with red marks for a while but I'm not ever left bruised.

Gentle spanking? What's the point of that?

A proper spanking should be hard enough to redden your backside, but not hard enough to leave a bruise.

It's funny, I like being spanked, but it works as a punishment sometimes, too. Outside the bedroom, when I forget my place, he'll bend me over his knee and give me a few slaps. It's been a couple months since I've needed that kind of spanking.

when it comes to being spanked, the harder the better. In my opinion at least.

Hey Jude - I've augmented doggy style with a little spanking while I'm back there to great success

WhIile I do enjoy a, redden my backside spanking, I also enjoy the 'gentle' ones as well.

I suppose it is a kin to the difference between enjoying gentle love making and raw animal **cking....different times and moods call for different actions.

I guess that you don't read much about the 'gentle' on the sites you visit because it would be like going to those sites and talking about gentle love making in the missionary...it's too mundane for them.

It's not unusual, it's just a middle ground

I love a good smack on my ass when my guy is into me....no dominance required here!

I have to agree with Joe, spanking while in doggy style is amazing .....

My stbx, would have the most amazing orgasms
When I slapped her butt checks while on top.

A good noisy spank made her feel like she wants to fuck
Hard, slaps that left red spots ... I think it's the ultimate
Sex condiment. And turn on, she orgasmed hard after a few noisy ones. It made her like she was a slave to sex ...

I don't think it's unusual at all =)

not unusual at all to enjoy a more gentle style spanking.

I feel like Judestar. I don't think dominance or punishment is healthy personally. We do this within marriage as a part of foreplay and it works for us and has done for about 18 yrs. Everyone is different so it is pointless going into personal details. I am encouraged that others think as I do.

Love a stinging slap on the ass, but he only ever does one, and I want a few. I'm sure we'll get there. I also love when he bites my ribs pretty hard. I'd never experienced that and wouldn't have occurred to me. But he arches me up and bites hard - wow.