ALL OF IT.

Being proficient at a sexual skill for who? What is excellent to one, won't be excellent to another, everyone has their own likes and needs how they want X, Y or Z done. If you have the mindset that you're excellent at X, Y and Z then you might close your mind to a partner's needs or stop exploring other techniques which could turn into a sexual routine rut.

IMO, the best thing is for both people involved being proficient at openly communicating their needs and each partner wanting to, willing to and being enthusiastic about fulfilling each other's needs.

It would all depend on who I was with. Pleasing and being pleased by a partner is what a couple should be aiming for. Different people like different things. If I become proficient in one thing with one partner because that is what he likes, and then if I move on to another partner and they don't like that one thing, then becoming proficient at that one thing was pointless.

Learning what each other likes is partially the fun of getting to know each other and making the relationship work. If I'm not on the same page sexually as a partner and we can't find a happy medium, it would be a deal breaker.

The only sexual skill I ever plan on needing is pleasing my husband ^_^

I am very confident with my ability to please someone I love. I think I excel at making someone comfortable to express their deepest feelings sexually and helping to explore them. I am a BBW. If I could change one thing about myself sexually ...it would be for me to be less self-conscious of my body.

I would like that confidence I'm always lacking. I would love to walk into the bedroom and just own it without feeling silly.

(sigh) leather...to the one you're trying to please, of course!

Well Kool, IMO if you have the mindset that you're excellent at X, Y or Z then you might close your mind to exploring different techniques which can easily turn into a sexual routine rut.

I know for me, I don't enjoy any sex act done the exact same way every time so partner perfecting a certain technique isn't going to work for me no matter how great it is, eventually getting the same thing every time will get quite boring. What is the best of the best for me today might not be the best for me tomorrow. Partner is the same way, he likes variety, different techniques for a sex act at different times.

To us, being able to openly communicate our desires, being willing, wanting and enthusiastic in fulfilling each other's desires is where proficiency comes in.

I don't even masturbate the same way every time, I'm always doing something different.

I'm all for exploring any letter of the alphabet, honey.

Takes two to tango. Hard to achive excellence with out the right partner.Both got to be on the same wave length.

True. And that requires talking...and doing...trying things...experimenting. It's not an exact science. More of an art really. And it requires bravery. So many of us are afraid to say what we'd like to do to/with each other. I'm obviously not afraid of offending women (ha!). It would be nice to find a woman who has an equally explicit potty-mouthed sexual vocabulary, unfiltered by puritanical overtones and delusions of being a "good girl"!

Of course, when dealing with you ladies, there is the more tender, loving emotional component. I can do that too.

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