It has me so frustrated and just wondering if it’s me or something?!

It has me so frustrated and just wondering if it’s me or something?!

I’m sorry that you are having a difficult time. Are there new stressors in his life over the last few months. Maybe at his job? I know this year has been crazy for so many. Do you think he is worried about something?

He does stress about his job a lot and he also stays tired a lot. I don’t know if that’s it or what. I’ve tried asking him if it’s me and he says it’s not

Hello and welcome, thank you for sharing,
There are so many things wrong, but first have you talked to him?
If you were talking to your BF and she told you this - what would you tell her?
For so many men the excitement wears off if they are not committed, not in it for real, playing house or playing family.
For many men once they have won the prize without any work, effort, commitment, they get bored and move on.
Now if this in not the case for you and him, you CAN NOT change him.
What do you have in common, besides sitting in front of the TV and watching endless hours of shows not talking.
What are your hobbies, what are his hobbies, what is his life goals what are your life goals?
How is he helping you be the best version of yourself you can be? And vice versa?
You are not married so what is it in there for either of you? What is the purpose of dating, having sex and hanging around with someone that is not invested in you, in the future, in your value of togetherness?
You feel the need to give your gift from God away to him, without value meaning or purpose.
Why are you letting him test drive the car until he decides to buy it or not?
The chemical attachment that is formed with sex blinds us to the faults of others until the chemical becomes numbing and dull. Once we are bored and dulled to the chemical effect of sex without purpose or intimacy, we feel the need to look else where.
You CAN NOT change him, focus on yourself the beautiful person you are, the gift you are given without questions or requirements. Love yourself for your own values. Dont be afraid to stand up for yourself even in the storm of change.
Honor yourself, your body, your soul, your spirit and your mind.
I pray you are safe and healthy.

I don't think it's you.. maybe you should initiate or do something spontaneous. I have only been married for 5 years but it can be that way sometimes

If he doesn’t have any healthy issues with him self than to me this is suspicious. Are u sure 100% that he is not cheating?
Try and talk with him honestly and let him know how you feel. Don’t hide it. He needs to know how do you feel and you need to see his reaction. If he doesn’t want to change his situation than u r in trouble.

Same here. We all know that with time the frequency tends to drop but it is important to always communicate and never go to bed angry. My issue is he stopped initiating for a while which left me feeling undesirable. When I talked to him about it he said that was not his intention.
Best to talk it out and if you don't feel 100% comfortable talking it out, write it out.