Did they mean all sex partners or just the more long-term serious relationships?
I've got a few exes that weren't one-night stands, it just turned out after a while that things weren't working out - but only two that I'd count as actual relationships.

I don't know they just said sex partners so I assume all of them.

I think this is an extremely outdated idea. In todays world, women have many more than four sexual partners IMO. I have actually had this discussion with friends and they have had the same discussion with other friends and we figured out an average of about 10, but thats not over their lifetime, just about a 15 year time period.

I agree with you prego! I am a male and I think this gender biased double standard is completely antiquated! If the same study showed men having only 4 partners in a lifetime, then they would be ridiculed by their friends and pressured to up their average. I don't think we should be defined by our partners. I myself have had five serious relationships with women and therefore five sexual partners. My g/f has had twice this number of partners, and I honestly don't mind. The number of partners is immaterial. Its you as a person and your attitude that should determine whether or not you're a slut.

For example, if you developed feelings and slept with, say a dozen people, and it didn't work out a dozen times, I wouldn't call you a slut. However, if you slept with say 2 guys, but you completely used them and took them for a ride using your sexuality to milk them for all they were worth (without their knowledge), in other words you were leading them on; then I might call you a slut.

I hope this helps.

Peace,

~A

proud to say.. i had ONE sexual EXPERIENCE before my husband.. and im VERY happy with him:)..to me if you have sex they were a sex partner.. so they count..

i shoulda waited for my husband. i wish i did.. but no shoulda coulda wouldas.. sleeping around casually, or even sleeping with someone after developing feelings for someone just isnt me. i was engaged the first time, and that sex was TERRIBLE Lol. now my hubby...;)

Hello.............I can remember more than 4 in one week........... and I am an antique.............LOL

Don't feel like that Charity. Having many partners does not make you a slut. I don't know about 4 being the average but I've only had 3 partners, and i married the third. Everyone's different.

Thats only alot if your your counting the ones you did this week.

We all get horny, and we all fall prey to the temptation for "variety" (i.e. multiple partners). You are who you are, a human animal, sexually confident, aggressive, know what you want, how to get it, and you take it when it's there. No shame in that. Just make damn sure every one of them uses a condom so you don't get sick and die at 30.

*shrug*

typo maybe and it should have been 40?

who knows? WHo cares? I would say who you are now counts mire than your "wicked" past... yeah?

4 at once?..menage au quatro

Fucck no. I'm only 19 and over the course of a year I've been with 9 guys 1 of wich I'm still with and 1 girl. Adding the total sex to about 150 ort 200 times or more. So I'm the one whom should be considered a slut. lol

Lexie

no, four sounds extremely low to me. I would guess most girls have that many partners in college, if not more.

I don't think slut is defined by how many partners you have, necessarily, but by whether you have other partners when you are supposedly committed to ONE partner. Have the guts to ask for an open relationship or don't commit to someone.

First of all I dont think any women or girl needs to be called a slut.

I wouldnt worry so much about the number of people you have sex with or what people think about you or what they call you. I would be more concerned about who you are having sex with and if that person has any STDs. Sorry to bring you down, but these are the times we live in now, and STDs can cause pain and havoc to you over your lifetime; even death.

I think it is important to talk to the person you are thinking of having sex with openly about this. I also think it is very important to practice safe sex if you do decide to have sex at all.

Also I think most people tend to settle down quite early in life. I see that more and more. I think it is ok not to have many sexual partners. I think working on having a good sex life with your partner is the key. These are just my thoughts.