Healthy Sex Support Group
This community is dedicated to an open discussion about healthy sex and sharing thoughts and feelings about sexuality and improving one's sex life. Most active adults desire to have an active and fulfilling sex life, both for themselves and also their partner. Here we discuss common sexual challenges faced by both men and women.
Hi,
My wife and I(42M) have been together for a couple of years and we had a great sex life. Two years ago I went through a rough patch in my life and I was dealing with depression. I went to see a therapist for half a year but my mental state didn't really improve. This is when my doctor decided to prescribe an anti-depressant for me. It really seemed to have helped me feel less anxious and improve my general mood.
Unfortunately I think that taking these meds affected our sex life. It seems like it is more challenging to stay hard while having intercourse. I never had problems staying hard before so it really sucks. My wife is really understanding and patient, but I would love to get back to how it was before. I talked to my doctor about this but he said he couldn't do much about it except maybe try other meds. A friend suggested that wearing a cock ring makes you stay harder, but I'm hesistant if it will work.
I was looking a ring like https://www.cockringexpert.com/cockring/m2-weighted-cock-ring/ but I do know if it will help in my case.
Did anyone ever try one? I'd love to hear from other people who were in similar situations and how they managed to deal with this!
Paul
Push yourself during exercising, including doing kegel exercising. Also do as many squats as you can go during your exercise.
Stop all porn, including shows that have sex scenes of any kind, Stop all self sex!
While being intimate with your wife dont engage in intercourse, for a while - suggested 90 days.
Once a week do full body massages to each other, but do not lead to sex. It does not matter how good or bad at them you two are just get lotion or oil and rub it softly everywhere.
Once a week take a long hot shower with each other washing all over but do not lead to sex. This works best in a hotel shower the is full size and roomy.
There are many things you can do, along the above ideas. IT will take time but you both need to learn how to pleasure each other outside of intercourse. If you take the time to learn and be patience with yourself., you will see your marriage improve your depression improve and your sex life.
Its very possible for it all to come back even more than before.
I pray for you and your wife to stay strong during this.
Anti-depressants are known to effect sexual performance.
MemphisWH has some good steps to take for the road to recovery. Probably the best medicine is exercise, especially cardio. In fact it may also help with your depression and will be able to reduce the medication.