I was married 26 years and had a wonderful sex drive - still do. He on the other hand thought it wasn't enough, because as you said , I was "the only one to do the cleaning, shopping, meal prep, and taking care of the kids: driving them places, etc."
He had 'the poor me" syndrome, because instead of waiting until things were done, or helping to get things done, he stared at the computer and it all went south from there. At times it was as if I had an over sized 2 year old who didn't know how to not only make a decision, but also didn't know how to pick up after himself.
I made his life to easy and comfortable, yet he thought if he left for BIGGER pastures, his life would stay as comfortable. It didn't happen and I still pay that price.

Being in a monogamous relationship never would have killed my sex drive. You know the person, you are comfortable with the person. The parties in a monogamous relationship should learn the fine points of give and take in all aspects of the relationship in order to keep the relationship alive. it's not a one sided situation.

Maybe a pill should be invented that enables a spouse to wake up and see that the more they do, the more they might get.
A helping hand is worth it's weight in gold.

Rant over.

I was with my ex for 29 years and always had a very high libido. Our sex life was never routine or boring (neither did our relationship) and the length of time together did not have a negative effect on my libido. I've been with my partner for 6 years and no problems with my sex drive.

My personal belief is, it isn't the length of time you've been with a partner that causes loss of desire, it's if the sex life and relationship as a whole is allowed to get mundane.

I think I must be reading this wrong, because it sorta

kinda

maybe-a-little-bit

sounds like the pill is actually poison to get rid of the husband?

Hahahaha..

http://digitaljournal.com/article/351233
Anybody else up for trying Lybrido?

Been married almost 12 years and my sex drive is actually picking up. We do sort of have a mundane routine, though. Of course, until we can get his ED squared away, I'm not getting much. His self-esteem is through the floor. I've been there before and it sort of kills the sex drive. So, even the fun alternatives are not very interesting to him right now. Oh, well.

Viagra helps a guy to get erect when there is already something sexual going on, correct? I mean a guy takes a Viagra and doesn't simply get an instant hard-on.

A woman can get sexually stimulated by love making activities. A person's sex dive is a person's sex drive, right?

Mine has noit changed except when I went through a period of depression which is now ended.

I have a high sex drive.

Leather, I could not agree with you more. I've been around the block a time or two..only married once for 13 years, I must say during my marriage I was soooo busy trying to establish myself in the business world, that many, many times I was just physically too tired. My x was a great wife every night she was made up, fresh out of the shower, with dinner waiting to be served. I was working 75 to 80 hours a week After we divorced I changed job started working 40 hours and then I was back to my old horny self. Soooo there may be other factors involved when two people are not compatible sexually. I am now retired with tooo much time on my hands, and yes I'm an old horny dog....Ron

I also think that the length of time you are with some-one does not diminish your sex drive, but one partner always seems to want more of a different thing and I feel that start's the problems.

I swear my wife needs that going threw menopause , and outta the blue , doesnt care for foreplay / Oral sex even tho i am the giver she nevers gives but i am ok with that maybe its because her and her co-worker Mike like to fuk like 2 mallards in a back of school bus

Cassy, responses not appropriate to the question. Oh, well. Sorry about that.

Well, all I know about menopause is: when I use Estrogen, my orgasms are much stronger, and I read that estrogen may help the smooth muscles in that area.
Women who are over-weight may not have as much of a estrogen depletion problem, during The Change, as fat converts into estrogen.
I just ate a big burger, and not the kind that is lean, lol

http://www.flibanserin-hsdd.com/

Feb 17 2015

Sprout Pharmaceuticals has announced that it has resubmitted flibanserin, a drug intended for hypoactive sexual desire disorder in premenopausal women to the FDA for approval.

Sprout Pharmaceuticals received additional requirements for the testing of the product back in 2013 and has since completed additional testing. In testing Flibanserin has shown statistical improvement in increasing a woman's sexual desire and an increase in the frequency of satisfying sex.

Hi, lots of issues popping up in this thread :)

I was in two full time relationships and had children, housework, bills, all the usual stresses. Both lasted 13 years. In both of these I got bored with sex after a couple of years, the first guy was into things that I didn't enjoy and the second guy wanted sex every day, when the honeymoon period wore off, housework, kids, cooking etc took over and I turned off and went through the motions. I wanted them to want me for my personality not for sex, which is how it felt.

I've been with this man nearly 6 years. Tables turned. With a loud crash! HIs worsening ED issues mean he's now impotent. Perversely I'm more sexual than I ever was, I feel like I did in the first weeks of a new relationship - all the time! We don't live together, I have my own house, enough money, my own life, great friends, no kids at home any more, no periods and a good social life. I wouldn't give a flying f*** if he just wanted me for sex and not my stunning intellect ha ha.

Hormones play a big part I think, in women after the menopause cuddly oestrogen drops and leaves room for the sexy testosterone to take over. In older men the opposite happens which is why they start wanting to cuddle in bed watching the TV.

I have too much natural Viagra. The next man I date I will surely wear him out sexually. The older I get the more I crave sex.