IMO, it has nothing to do with anything physical (not even sex), it has to do with the emotional level being higher than you would have for a friend.

I think it's a moment. The moment that you know you want to spend time with the person. A connection. A look. A certain tenderness.a feeling you get inside when you think about the other person.

Oh geezer :-)

When a relationship with someone I'd like to get in bed with gets close, comfortable, and deep enough for me to think taking the relationship in that direction wouldn't be a stupid mistake.

Chemistry is what changes it. And chemistry can be there the moment you meet someone, or it can begin to slowly heat up over time, I suppose, though I've never experienced that myself with a good outcome. But you know, you DO hear stories about people who are friends and then become attracted to each other as time goes by.

For me it's when I talk to the person and we share a connection higher than friends. I said yes to my boyfriend without giving much thought into it. However that being said we were also best friends before he asked me out. After having had conversation with him after I said yes we eventually developed a spiritual connection as well as a romantic connection, to the point where he already sees me as his wife and I see him as my husband.

I never thought I could find anything like this, but I did.

What that moment is for the next girl I couldn't tell you.

i think it has 2 do with realizing that u both connect on many levels.

idk think sex has alot really 2 do with it. i could have sex with many ppl n never want more than that from them.

that bein said i also think that if we got it on n the other person was bad or just not up 2 my standards that would b the deal breaker even if we were connected on those other levels b/c itd nvr work in the end neway @ least not monogomously.