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Question for lesbians

angellore88
angellore88

Hello, I am a woman living a straight life always had boyfriends. Right know almost 30. Only some lesbian sexual experimentation with some close friends. During times I have been single I have subtly try to get lesbian girls to notice me, but I feel like I am not the type of woman other woman go for. Before going into details I would lime to mention that I lime femenine looking woman. As for me I am very girly, big fake boobs hehe, long blonde hair, etc, great for caughtin male attention but as for woman attention I feel like my physique and style are not what lesbians find desirable. I see most lesbians like tomboys and they seem to turned off by a kind of “fake” looking woman like me, I mean I am not super fake looking but I’m not the most natural looking girl either. My question is, are there femenine lesbians out there that like girls like me? I am very unexperienced in this whole lesbian dating scene.

calirn13
calirn13
Some of my best friends are lesbians. Are you saying you are a lesbian? If you are you can go to places that they would hang out. However, my BFF has started dating girls that were straight. It is not fair to get someone emotionally attached and then say... I really miss the touch of a man. She is dealing with this right now. Together over 3 years. My friend proposed, she said yes... a month later she said.. would it be okay if we had a guy join us... I miss having sex with a man. WTF??
My friend is crushed... she said no! But thinks she is cheating with a man. My friend and her fiancé have not had sex for 8 months (not for a lack of trying)

If you want to “hookup” with women find a hookup app. Don’t mislead them, it’s not fair.
angellore88
angellore88
Thanks for your response, I would like to try a relationship sometime in the future after I heal from a recent breakup. I have always felt interested in girls since I was a teenager but I am scared of trying for fear of being rejected or not taken seriously.
calirn13
calirn13
As long as you are sincere in your pursuit of a relationship you will be fine. Good luck
lostsoul72
lostsoul72
I second what calirn13 said. My brother was married to woman that was attracted to other women from her teen years and kept it from him. After they were married for several years and had a child she decided to act on her urges and cheated on him and than left him for another woman. My brother is now dead.

My only words of wisdom is don't drag people along for your ride. If you have feelings and desires for the same sex be honest with yourself and your partner don't lead anyone on.
ksizzle
ksizzle
As a lesbian myself, I would say that it could be females just don't get a certain vibe from you, which could deter them from approaching you. Like you said, you can easily get a male's attention, therefore most lesbians might view you as a straight female. Go out to a gay bar of some sort and I'm sure you'd be able to find someone, most lesbians wouldn't care if you are unexperienced because they like it.