I have never used Tinder or any such dating site, but it seems that you and he both want some fun and relief and so it is up to only the two of you. I don't know the dynamics of such a site but if you want more than a fwb, you should try to make friends through activities or friends of friends, where there is already a human connection. Good luck in any case.

hi there.

reading your posts, it seems like you're placing a lot of weight on what this guy and other guys think of you and little weight on how you feel about yourself.

if you want to hook up and are attracted to this guy, then go ahead by all means. if you want a relationship, then it's risky to start with sex and hope to grow something more. I this case, you're probably better being honest about what you want and finding someone who wants the same.

I'm sure you have a lot to offer a lot of people. get focused on that and look for people who want the same thing.

good luck to you

The thing is it seems like im never good enough for a guy to be friends w me. Im either rejected, used 4 sex or nothing more. It hurts like hell.

Think about this two ways:

1) not all guys are interested in friendship or in providing the support that goes along with friendships or other relationships. in "friends with benefits," these guys focus on the "benefits," when it sounds like you prefer to be friends.

2) who tells you you're not good enough? The guys, or yourself?

We can be friends :-)

Its me, i feel like im repulsive to men and that they hate me. I cant even talk to them. I would say both. Its me and guys, like my weight 4 example i was pushing 340 but since ive been working out and going to the gym im down to 272. Hope you dont stop talking to cuz of that. Also, whenever i have sex i cant cum or orgasm like they want me too =( am i doomed or is it because of no chemistry my friend was telling me about that today

Why would i stop talking to you because of that? I am interested in being friends. Working out or not, weight, etc. is not relevant.

You are not doomed... it sounds like you are stressed and too focused on making the orgasm happen. Sex is best when you can relax and get out of your head about it.

Feel free to message me directly if you want to have the conversation outside the forum.

Commenting mostly based on the replies rather than the original post.

You can't expect others to love you if you don't love yourself first. I know it's hard but that's where confidence starts. Focus on the things you like about yourself (inside and out) and go from there.

I agree with holborn98 when he says sex is best when you relax. Focusing too much on reaching an orgasm just puts pressure and won't let you enjoy the moment.
Good luck with everything

Thank you, i struggle alot w self love

It sounds like you're searching on Tinder for something to be found on eHarmony. You're scanning the menu for Vegan options in a Bar-B-Que joint.