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Any day now my man friend of 3 years will be moving back here to this town. We began a relationship that lasted about 7 or 8 months before he had to move for awhile, for his job. Now the job is ending a new one will begin back here soon.
In the meantime when he can't visit and is feeling frisky , he starts out asking me what I am wearing...
now mind you my whole life I have been an unexplicable, naturaly shy though rather promiscuious woman. I was not, during marriage.
but anyway , my husband was too judge-y for me to ever feel comfortable in most role play things.
not that we did not enjoy bondage etc. But he'd ask me to say dirty things during sex and I had no clue what to say. Very embarrassing.
so now this guy I'm now in relationship with has somehow helped me through my shyness on everything ! Because he is sexy and non judgmental.....and not pushy.
He is certainly not shy about letting me know what he likes but he doesn't try to force me with anything.
my question is, I would prefer to know better responses when he asks me what i am wearing.
usually we have been talking awhile about general/life things. politics etc.
then comes that question and mind you it's been really cold weather so I don't want to say well I am wearing long johns and a sweatshirt, lol.
So guys, and women, ideas? Do lie , and say something real sexy instead ? even so , what should I say ?
I don't want to sound like I am making it up. often after that is brought up , there is some sexting to follow. That is something else , me trying to do that kind of selfie.
but , stupid or not, I do trust him .....plus I really would not get too upset if that got around. I don't have my face in my pictures.
I can't be the only one who has these questions.
by the way , I do get turned on even though it flusters me.....
I am glad someone understands.
Amaranthine..I have to build up that , but it is a great idea. I really though that part of me , died with my ex. So shocked that this guy brought it back to life and that be doing so made me a "Cougar" lol. * he has no issues with any age group or anything, that I can tell. he is around 50, I am around 60 nearly, my neighbor, she is like 70 and she wants him too. how odd. He was very very close to sealing that deal when I met him. But at least he admits things..I really prefer that to deception. I know for now I am the only one. We have neither said the love word or made any long term commitments. I find it refreshing. We have asked each other to not be with someone else while we are 'together'.
As far as talking dirty to man. My idea of things I want to hear is compliments. If I am doing something right tell me how it makes you feel. Being a guy of just over average size I don't need to hear about how huge my cock is as that is a lie and honestly it would make me feel even more inadequate. What can be said though is how big it feels inside you or fills you up of if where its hitting you just right more of the true complimentary comments instead of the normal porn stuff like oh my god so your huge. If you want it deeper or harder say that too and the occational fuck me is nice to hear.
I guess the point I am trying to make is that your living out a fantasy over the phone and the more detail the better it will be!
Best of luck!
JewelB, i just have not had that kind of discussion with him since I began this topic. I will definitely fill you all in.
Life has been hectic where he is plus he has been sick. I don't know why I felt the need to explain. Ha ha.
I have been mulling over the comments here in my mind so I won't be so off guard when it happens.